In the 1989 movie, Dead Poets Society, Robin Williams plays an eccentric English teacher named John Keating. He teaches a group of boys who attend a Catholic prep school in Vermont during the 1950s. Mr. Keating is very different from the kinds of teachers the boys had previously. He encourages them to think for themselves and to, “Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary.”

One of the students named Neil Perry, played by Robert Sean Leonard, decides to pursue acting against his father’s wishes. Neil tries out for the lead in a performance of Shakespeare’s A Midsummer’s Night Dream. He gets the part, which is the character Puck. When his father learns of this, he actually forbids Neil from continuing in the play. But Neil, inspired by Mr. Keating’s teaching, decides to defy his father, and stays in the play anyway.

His father ends up sneaking into the play when it debuts. After it concludes, he orders Neil to get into the car. Overwhelmed by his father’s judgement, Neil takes his own life that night. 

Immediately the school moves to dismiss Mr. Keating. They don’t want a scandal and they coerce all of Mr. Keating’s students to blame him for what happened.

When Mr. Keating is packing up his stuff in the classroom to leave, the painfully shy Todd Anderson, played by Ethan Hawke, tells Mr. Keating that it wasn’t his fault. Then he and many of the students, stand on their desks in tribute to their beloved teacher.

If you haven’t seen Dead Poets Society, it is worth a watch! It is all about learning how to think for yourself and growing into your own person.

It’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind of life. You spend time running on autopilot as you take care of work, family, chores, and other obligations, which can leave you feeling a bit sluggish and weighed down. Even if you aren’t unhappy with your life circumstances, you may still notice that you seem to be missing a genuine sense of happiness and enjoyment most of the time. We become strangely loyal to performing mindless, daily tasks until ultimately, we become enslaved by them.

This often happens when you have lost touch with your passion. What you are passionate about is your song. And our world desperately needs to hear you sing. The truth is, focusing most of your attention on work, chores, errands, and obligations can leave you feeling flat and uninspired. Life becomes a never-ending blur of getting things done, but never really feeling content or satisfied.

Reawakening your passion can fuel you from within, instantly making you feel inspired and eager about your life again. And even those parts that maybe aren’t so exciting! A good way to start is by following your interests. Think about the hobbies and activities you used to enjoy and consider starting up with them again.

You can join a group of like-minded people with similar interests or sign up for a class to brush up on your skills and learn new techniques. You can even explore some new activities that could become your passions. Research classes and events in your local area to see what’s available, or even take an online course.

If it’s been so long that you can no longer remember your passions, start exploring ideas either online or at your local library. Browse through some books on various subjects that might spark your passion. You will know when you come across something that resonates with you because you will feel an instant sense of excitement and curiosity. 

You may think that you are far too busy to waste time on such frivolous activities. But making time to do things you love actually contributes to a much happier, healthier, and more productive you. Looking at it that way, it suddenly doesn’t seem so frivolous after all.

Treat your passions as a priority, just as you do with your health and wellness habits. Schedule time for them every week, and don’t allow yourself to feel guilty about taking that time for yourself. Even if you can only spare one hour per week to pursue your passions, that small segment of time can still do wonders for your state of mind and overall sense of well-being. If it can make you happier and more productive in the other areas of your life, it’s time that is well-spent.

When you make your passions a priority, you will notice that it immediately begins breathing new life into your existence. You start to feel energized, inspired, more interested, and engaged with your life. Your sense of satisfaction continues to grow, even if nothing else in your life has changed.

Even better, the more you allow your feelings of passion to flow, you will keep attracting more and more things that inspire your passion. Your life will continue to feel richer and more meaningful with every passing day.

Have you ever wished you could do something, but somehow you hold yourself back?

Maybe you wanted to start a business or become an artist or even just approach someone at the bar.

Why does this happen?

We often have highly critical perceptions of ourselves. We think we aren’t pretty enough, talented enough, funny enough, or just good enough as we are. For us, it isn’t about who we are that holds us back – it’s who we think we are not.

Where these feelings become problematic is that they can stop you from taking the action you need in your life.

So how can you change the way you view yourself so that you can step out of your fear and do what your heart desires?

1. You can redefine yourself. We often hold ourselves back because of the limits and labels we put on ourselves. However, nothing is set in stone. When we are willing to redefine ourselves and let go of the labels we have put on ourselves, we can break through the limits and become anyone we want. So allow yourself to consider everything you ARE rather than what you aren’t.

2. Identify your limiting beliefs. To redefine yourself, you first need to get clear on what it is that you truly believe about yourself. Think about times you have wanted to do something but you held yourself back. Maybe you wanted to speak up at work, or ask someone out. Whatever it was, take note of it.

Next, ask yourself what stopped you. What was the thought that held you back? For example, did you think you didn’t have something smart enough to say? Did you think you weren’t pretty enough to ask that person out?

When you find yourself labelling yourself with beliefs like “I am not smart enough” or “I am not pretty enough”, write them down so that you can change them.

3. Create a new story for yourself. Prove your labels and limits as wrong! More often than not, these limiting beliefs about ourselves are just harsh thoughts our inner critics have convinced us of.

If you think you aren’t pretty, consider all the times someone has complimented you. If you think you aren’t smart enough, then remind yourself of all the times you have proved yourself to be extremely wise and intelligent.

You can also create a new affirmation to remind yourself of the opposite belief. For example, you can say something like “I am beautiful in my own way”. Everyday before work, you might look in the mirror and say “I am intelligent” or “I have a lot to offer at work today”.

4. Take massive action. This is the scary but thrilling part! When you take the action you were earlier afraid of taking, you practice becoming the version of you that you want to be.

5. Don’t give up. Remember, even if it doesn’t work out the first time, don’t give up! It doesn’t mean anything, it is merely experience. Just because your boss doesn’t love your suggestion or the first guy you asked out says no doesn’t mean that you are not smart enough or pretty enough.

Acknowledge that even the smartest or prettiest people get rejected at times. The outcome isn’t a reflection of who you truly are.

Remember, you get to define yourself. When you define yourself by the things you aren’t, you strip yourself of the confidence that enables you to do what you want. Why do that when you can be anything you want? So the next time a thought whispers in your mind telling you that you aren’t ‘good enough’ in any way, prove it wrong and take action regardless!

Have you ever had to make a difficult decision? Maybe you had to break up with your significant other, quit a job, or move to a new country.

Big life decisions can be difficult and scary because it means doing something different than what we are used to. Our bodies are wired to keep us in our comfort zones, where we feel safe in the familiarity of things. But when our comfort zone is a toxic relationship or an ungratifying career, what is familiar and feels safe can be the very thing we need to get away from.

Such decisions are difficult. Here are four tips for you to help you make a big, difficult decision:

1. Take your time. Sometimes we need a few days to think even when we know what we want. This is especially true in situations where the decision is extremely drastic or when we are stepping out of a situation we are extremely comfortable with.

For example, you could be certain that you want to get out of your 10-year long relationship that is toxic and harmful for you mentally and emotionally. However, because you are so used to having this person in your life, it can take some time for you to actually take action and leave the relationship.

That’s okay. Remember, this decision is big, and you can take your time. What is important is that you don’t let the addiction to familiarity keep you in a situation that you’ve outgrown.  

2. Consider the bigger picture. What feels good to you right now might not be what you want long-term for yourself. Consider your values, your beliefs, your dreams, and your long-term goals. What do you need to do to move towards who you ultimately want to be?

Often, the monthly gratification and security that a job salary gives can keep us stuck in a career we hate. Similarly, the idea of being alone can keep us in a relationship that’s bad for us.

When we lose sight of our long-term goals, we can get stuck in situations that are holding us back. Thus, it’s important to consider the following questions:

• Does this align with my beliefs and values?
• How will this affect my future?
• What am I sacrificing by not making this decision?
• Is this decision moving me closer towards my ultimate goals and dreams?

3. Make a pros and cons list. The age-old pros and cons list is a proven decision-making strategy. Making a pros and cons list helps you make difficult decisions logically, rather than acting on impulse. Such a list is also a great way to get what is in your head out on paper so that it is easier to make a more well-rounded decision, after taking all factors into consideration.

4. Acknowledge how you feel. While logic is helpful in making decisions, it’s also important to consider how you feel about your decision. Which outcome gives you a sense of peace? Which outcome feels good, in the long run?

Be careful not to mistake a sense of familiarity for what feels good. Consider true peace, not what is momentarily easy.

The best decisions are the ones that make logical sense and also feel good. They are supported by both the head and the heart.

Every moment presents us with a decision. Some are easy, while some can be quite difficult. However, it’s important to always tune into your head and your heart when making decisions. Consider where you are avoiding difficult decisions at the expense of your peace and your future. Sometimes, we might have to do something difficult like breaking up with someone we love when we realize that our values don’t align. Doing so can be extremely difficult, but it can also finally give your soul the peace it has been craving.

Have you ever set a goal or decided to work on a project, do something big, or start a new habit, but lost motivation along the way?

As much as we don’t like to admit it, we have all experienced making excuses at some point or another in our lives. Sometimes we make excuses to get out of things we don’t want to do for other people. But many times, we actually make excuses for things we WANT to do for ourselves.

We get caught up in laziness or procrastination, causing us to miss out on what we want to do.

Excuses will always be available to us. But do you want to let life pass you by in a whirl of excuses? If you struggle with putting things off to a later date, you have to start asking yourself, if not now, when? 

Here are 5 tips to stop making excuses so that you can take advantage of all the wonderful opportunities that are in front of you.

How to Stop Making Excuses and Grab Life’s Opportunities

1. Stop dwelling on past failures. We all make mistakes; we are human after all. However, beating yourself up and focusing on the past just makes you feel worse and gives you an excuse to not try again. Instead of dwelling on a past failure, reflect on it and learn from your experience. When you do that, you can transform your past mistake into an invaluable learning opportunity!

2. Pick yourself up. Whenever you stumble off your path, get back on track. For example, let’s say you decided to go to the gym every day. Perhaps you accidentally sleep in one day and missed your workout. If that happens, it’s okay. Pick yourself up and get back to your habit the next day. Just because you stumble doesn’t mean you have to give up.

3. Stop comparing yourself. One of the biggest reasons to we stop ourselves from going after what we want is comparison. When you compare yourself to others, it’s easy to start feeling ‘not good enough’ and give up. However, that’s just another excuse! Everyone started somewhere, and with persistence and dedication, they reached the level they are at now. So don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Everyone has their own journey, and by comparing your journey to theirs is not just holding yourself back but it is also unfair to you. The only person you should be comparing yourself to is who you were yesterday.

4. Spend time with people who inspire you. As social creatures, we are extremely influenced by the people we spend time with. Consider what type of people you surround yourself with; do they make excuses, or do they create reasons? Do they wait around for life to pass them by, or do they grab the opportunities that life offers?

Surround yourself with people who face challenges with strength and take opportunities with courage. Let them inspire you!

5. Don’t overthink things. As human beings, we are blessed with our powerful minds, but our minds can also pose challenges if we don’t learn to be in control of it.

Whenever we have to do something that requires us stepping out of our comfort zones, it can be so easy to get caught up in our own thinking.

Should I do this or not? What are the pros and cons? Maybe it would be easy and comfortable if I just went to bed…

All these thoughts start arising and finally we just make up some to avoid going after what we actually want.

So, the next time you set a goal, don’t overthink it. Decide beforehand exactly what you will do and when. Be extremely specific so that your mind doesn’t get any chance to overthink and throw you off course. For example, you might decide to go to the gym at exactly 5 pm after work. Once work is over, don’t let yourself get distracted by thoughts. As soon as it is 5 pm, take action according to the decision you had made earlier and head to the gym. Or, make the decision that come hell or high water, you will get your workout in today. Even if it means doing it at home after you put your kids to bed. Be flexible, but consistent. Remember, it is not about having the time, it’s about making the time.

Making excuses is easy, but it keeps us away from success. If you want to achieve your goals, set healthy habits, and work towards creating a happier and healthier you, it’s important to learn how to grab each opportunity and fight excuses.

Have you ever woken up and felt ‘blah’ thinking about living the same day again? Maybe you are sick of your routine of waking up, going to work, coming home, sleeping, only to repeat it. Or maybe you had a recent experience that left you shaken up, like a breakup or a job change.

No matter what the reason is, you can always count on some adventure to help you feel better. Whether you travel to another corner of the world or explore a different area of your city, a little adventure can boost your spirits!

4 Reasons Why Adventure Nourishes Your Soul

1. It allows you to reinvent yourself. Traveling to a new place can give you the blank slate to be whoever you want to be. Maybe you think you are a quiet, shy person. Or maybe you think you are someone who hates the outdoor life. When you go to a new place, you can try out what it might feel like to be a completely different person. There is something freeing about being in a different landscape, where you have no previous associations, memories, or routines attached. You can meet new people as the new you: someone who is confident and out-going! Or, you can decide to wake up early and go for an adventurous hike. Being in a new place gives us the permission to reinvent ourselves and release the labels and definitions we carry around all our lives.

2. You gain a new perspective. In addition to reinventing yourself, traveling also gives you a new perspective on life. Facing new situations can help you see things you might not have earlier. In addition, experiencing different cultures and meeting people with different values can often result in you reassessing your own values and beliefs – for all the right reasons.

When you are in a new place, with new people, you are suddenly exposed to different ways of thinking that you may have never considered earlier. You might even see your own life events in a different light. This can be extremely therapeutic especially when it comes to things in your past that were difficult or emotional. You might be able to see a conflict with a loved one in a different way.

3. Your stress is diminished. Traveling to a new place is a great stress buster. In a different place, you’re not reminded of your daily worries. Traveling helps take your mind off stressful situations that might be weighing you down, so that you can feel calmer and more relaxed.

4. It offers a sense of satisfaction and happiness. When you experience something new, whether it’s a new place or a new event, you challenge your brain and rewire it. This boosts your mood and self-confidence, giving you satisfaction and happiness. Adventure is good for the soul. Experiencing a different place can give you a respite from the daily grind, so that you can refresh your mind, relax, and feel more alive. In addition, traveling also gives you the opportunity to reinvent who you are, adopt a new perspective on life, and grow as a person.