Change is hard at first, messy in the middle, and gorgeous at the end.

People tend to be resistant to change. Change brings uncertainty, loss of control, extra work, and concern that you won’t be enough to make it happen. However, change also brings personal growth, increased opportunities, and offers the chance to make your life better than it was yesterday. Change can be hard and messy, but change is always worth it in the end. Why Are People Resistant to Change Our brains are hardwired to be resistant

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Evil is evil. Lesser, greater, middling. It’s all the same.

Can you think of a time when you did something wrong, but tried to convince yourself it was not so bad? If we are honest, we can all attest to doing this. Maybe it was a lie we told our parents, a mean word we said about a classmate, or that small candy bar we picked up from the store without paying for. Whatever the intensity of our actions, they are still wrong. But sometimes,

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You never look good trying to make someone else look bad.

We’ve all been there; you’re in a room with a few friends, and one of them starts talking negatively about a friend that isn’t in the room. How does that make you feel? Do you feel like the friend in the room is a good person for bringing these negative qualities to your attention, or do you feel negatively towards the person in the room for trying to make someone else look bad? I have

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Accept what is. Let go of what was. And have faith in what will be.

Pain can cause us to deny what is happening or hold onto it for too long. Maybe your partner cheated on you or you lost your wallet. Life constantly challenges us, and there are millions of situations that can hurt us. So how do we deal with these situations? We can fight them and get angry, or we can get extremely sad. Another response is to question “why did this happen to me?” Some people

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Come on, Mr. Frodo. I can’t carry it for you…but I can carry you!

Can I just say that when it comes to our circle of friends, we all need a Samwise Gamgee in it? Sean Astin (remember him as Mikey from The Goonies?)  plays Frodo’s (played by Elijah Wood) best friend through the Lord of the Rings Trilogy. In The Return of the King, Frodo Baggins is the ringbearer of the one ring that rules them all. On their mission to destroy the ring and restore peace to

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Decide what kind of life you actually want. Then say no to everything that isn’t that.

Have you ever wondered why you are willing to live a life that isn’t your ideal life? Or maybe you’ve wondered why you can’t seem to say no to things that aren’t serving you or making you happy. Let’s take a look at why people accept less than they want and figure out how you can “Decide what kind of life you actually want. Then say no to everything that Isn’t that.” Why We Settle

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Your identity is your most valuable possession. Protect it.

In The Incredibles, Elastigirl tells her children to protect their identities before she goes off to help their father, Mr. Incredible. She says it is their most valuable possession.  In our oversaturated age of digital media, and in particular social media, images of other people’s lives bombard us. Carefully crafted highlight reels of people’s lives are a click away. I think for many young people, this adds to confusion and unhappiness during an already difficult

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Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.

In our society and culture, a lot of emphasis is placed on finding true love. For some of us, it becomes our biggest priority. And who doesn’t want to find it? Finding your “person” enhances your life in so many ways! I love that I have found my person to enjoy adventures with. The problem is that sometimes we equate happiness with our relationship status. Some of us aren’t happy unless we are in a

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