Our brains process millions of bits of data every day. To keep our brain from becoming overwhelmed and overloaded, we have a filter located in our reticular activating system (RAS). Think of this filter as place where information comes into the brain, and then is neatly filed into different boxes, so we can actually make sense of it all. How is this filter created? Well, we actually create the guidelines for it ourselves. We do

When we are in our darkest times, it’s easy for us to forget all the times we have risen, healed and overcame situations. But we overcame these obstacles by sheer perseverance. What creates a true champion in anything is consistently showing up and being willing to fail to win. It’s knowing that success happens through facing your fears, through falling down and getting back up again. What trips us up is fear. But fear, is

Insecurity is really uncertainty about yourself. It’s not feeling good enough as you are, or feeling uncertain about where you fit in, in this world. And we all experience it some point in our lives. I consider myself fairly confident with myself, but I had periods of extreme insecurity. I really struggled with feeling good enough and needing external validation. And once it took root in my life, it became a very ugly thing. And

Some day we are all going to die. We don’t know when or how. Some of us fear this loss and the finality of it all, yet we forget to live while we are alive. When we think about what will really make us feel alive or feel joy, we put off actually doing those things. We think about it in terms of “someday”. It goes something like this: Someday I am going to leave

How we take care of ourselves sets the unconscious standard of how other people will see us and treat us. If you’re like me, sometimes you really struggle with putting yourself first, or making time for self-care. I often will want to get a bunch of things done before I make the time to do something for myself. And the reality is, I never get to the bottom of the list where that special line

Hardships and failures are our best teachers. We grow stronger by facing and overcoming them. The natural human response to pain is to run away from it. But some things we can’t hide from, and we inevitably have to deal with them, and it can feel unbearable. At some point we will all endure heartache and pain that will threaten to destroy us, but we will overcome these moments of darkness and desperation. And that

For the toxic person, gaslighting is their number one tool for gaining control over their victim. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where the abuser uses psychological manipulation to alter another person’s sense of reality. Basically, when you confront them about anything they don’t like, they will attempt to convince you that the facts of a situation or even your own feelings about it are not true. Their goal is to make you doubt

Often times we focus our energy on things that have already happened. Or we are busy focusing on things that are in our future that we are worried or excited about. The funny thing is, when we focus on the past and future, we are robbing ourselves of the present. And, we tend to put things off into the future constantly. We designate some of our biggest dreams or even just small things that bring