Sometimes we forget how far we have come, and we get stuck on something or someone who we have moved on from. Whether we are feeling guilt, sadness, anger or hurt, somehow what we have already overcome latches on to our present state of being. Earlier this year I talked about how important healing is because if we don’t heal what hurt us, we will bleed on people who didn’t cut us. Sometimes we are

Our comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there. We stay in our safe space because it is known, it is certain. And as much as we may want something, just wanting it isn’t enough. We have to want it more than we fear failing or fear the unknown of what will happen once we leave the warm blanket in our comfort zone. Fear can run amok when we are overwhelmed, and

When you truly begin to believe in what you bring to the table in any relationship, you will tolerate less of the bullshit. When you know your worth and what you deserve, you will find it harder to stay around those who don’t. And when you close the door to what was before, you put yourself out there to attract what you deserve and all these new, amazing doors will open for you. My question

When someone violates our trust, it can be devastating. If it is from someone close to you, like your partner, it can make you question everything they’ve ever said and done. If it is from a parent who was supposed to protect you, it can create a lasting trauma that will take time to heal from. Whether you have uncovered an addiction, infidelity or anything that violates your trust for someone, the betrayal trauma is

Sometimes in the relationships that are the most meaningful to us, we can start to forget our worth. This can happen by us putting others before ourselves too much and by other people taking advantage of us to further their own agenda. Often times other people are oblivious to what they are doing, and sometimes, well, they can be quite calculating. As the sayings go, we teach people how to treat us and what we

As a person who likes to help others, this is something I repeat to myself often. I hate to see those I care about struggle and am always thinking of ways to be helpful. But sometimes I have to ask myself if solving the problem is really my place. Is this my responsibility? Does helping this person deny them the ability to gain mastery of their life? For me, being too helpful can become unhealthy

In Lord of the Rings, Gandalf tells Frodo, “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.” Our time on this Earth is limited and tomorrow is promised to no one. Who we are is determined by what we choose to do with the time and the cards we’ve been dealt. We are what we do, not what we say we will do. What are you doing

Almost three years ago next month, I was diagnosed with breast cancer at a relatively young age. I found out through a mammogram, which had led to an ultrasound and biopsy. My husband and I had a vacation that we had planned well in advance that had us leaving the day after the biopsy. When we left the next day, I really believed that the biopsy would come back negative and that they did the