Everyone has their demons. They can take the form of addictions, procrastination, lack of purpose, maladaptive ways of relating to the world, unhealthy relationships, etc. They can consume us and erode our soul. The key to defeating these demons is internalizing that they no longer work for us and the life we want to live. It’s very simple solution, yet so hard to truly implement and let go of the things that will destroy us

It’s completely human to care about what the people who we love and care about think of us. We naturally want to be liked and accepted. Where things start to go off track is when we start listening to other people’s opinions over our own. We only have this one life while we are here on this Earth. Like Ferris Bueller says, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in

Sometimes there is just no need to engage with people to bring chaos into your life. It easier said than done when the person bringing the crazy is someone you love. But at the end of the day, we are responsible for our own state of mind. And if they are doing things that you know mess with your head or threaten your mental wellness, respect yourself enough to disengage. We tend to go wrong

We are not what happened to us or our decisions. They are things happened to us or are things we did. They are not who we are. Yet the struggles we face sometimes grip us to the point where we become our struggle. When we go through hardships and traumas, it is appropriate take the time you need, whatever that is or whatever it looks like, to deal with it. That is an important part

Taking complete ownership of yourself and your actions is critical in forming deep, meaningful and healthy relationships with others. At the end of the day, you are responsible for your role in the relationship and how you choose to behave. When you take ownership of yourself, you are deciding not to play the blame game or play the victim. It’s taking an active role in creating a place of honesty, integrity, vulnerability and safety in

All of our experiences – the good, the bad and the ugly, shape who we are. We have to remember that our experiences are just that – experiences. What happened to us or what we have gone through does not have to define us. Trauma creates changes we don’t choose, but how healing flips the control back to us and allows us to create the change that we do choose. Healing from our trauma allows

The need to control others is born out of insecurity, anxiety, fear and low self-esteem. If someone feels out of control emotionally or mentally and cannot regulate their own feelings, they turn outward to get that sense of control and security from something external – typically another person. Their sense of self-esteem and well-being is dependent on the reassurances that control gives them. However, they never really have real control over someone else and any

When we don’t own who we are, we feel like we need to be someone else to measure up. We come from a place of lack and not feeling like we are good enough as we are. But the truth is, it is our imperfections and flaws that make us relatable, unique, beautiful and…human. If we can’t accept ourselves as we are, how can we believe that other people will? Even if they do, we