Oscar Wilde said, “Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.” Being free of consequences and hiding in the cloak of anonymity, people tend to show their true colors because they have nothing to lose. And this can go both ways. People can be cruel, and people can also be altruistic. This got me thinking about two things. One, we spend

When we find ourselves going the extra mile for people who wouldn’t do the same for us consistently, we have lost sight of our value. I’ve seen this play out through the years not only in my own relationships, but in many others, too. I think at its root, the reasons vary as to why some of us are willing to go over and beyond for others when they don’t do the same for us.

When we spend too much time talking with people who agree with us, we create an echo chamber for our own beliefs. And this fuels confirmation bias. One of my favorite memories as a teenager was having philosophical debates with my grandmother. She was a teenager during the depression and boy did we have different views on some things! It’s funny though, because as an adult I align more with her outlook and philosophy on

Shortly after I was diagnosed with cancer, I became fixated on the fear of dying. And those fears make sense when you first get a diagnosis like that. It’s scary and there are so many unknowns. There were so many tests to be done that might give me an inkling to my fate. And believe me, I was like Sherlock Holmes trying to figure out every variable and what could happen. After reading medical journals

It’s easy to fall into the trap of a victim mindset by believing that you don’t have a choice.  You have complete ownership over your life. While you may not be responsible for certain things that have happened, you are responsible for your response and what you choose to do – even if you choose to do nothing. And if you choose to do nothing, that’s totally okay if you are good with it. But

The struggle and pain you may be going through right now, is not how your story is going to end. It is just a chapter and part of the hero’s journey. And some day it may be someone else’s survival manual. You are also the author of your story…and you have a lot more power on how this story is going to go than you may believe. Here are some things to remember on your

Sometimes in our relationships, we can have a hard time recognizing mistreatment because it can be subtle. How many times have you looked back on a relationship and seen the red flags clearly, yet when it was actually happening you didn’t see it? It can be easy for us to confuse intensity with intimacy. Let’s take a look at the difference between the two: Intensity Intensity in a relationship is marked by major highs and

I have a few people in my life who I know I can count on to be honest with me and offer criticism when it is needed. I truly value the criticism when it is there, because it is constructive, and it only serves to help me become better at whatever it is I am doing. These are the people who I also know I can trust to tell me when I am making a