You can give someone an opportunity, or you can show them a path, but they must choose to take it for themselves. It is something to remember when trying to help someone. You can give them all the tools and resources, but if they don’t want to help themselves, they won’t. If you are like me and feel an innate need to want to help people succeed in life, this can be hard advice to

While it may be easier to do something for someone else rather than take the time to show them how to do it, it doesn’t truly help them in the long run. If you take the time to teach someone how to do it for themselves, they gain mastery of it and they aren’t dependent on you or anyone else for help. Think about this concept in your personal life. I would rather teach someone

Last month I spoke extensively about our intuition and how we can tell if it is truly guiding us, or if our past traumas misleading us. Let’s take a look at what our intuition, or gut instinct, really is. Our intuition is our immediate understanding of something. We can’t really explain why we understand something a certain way, we just do. It is an inescapable, strong feeling of what we know in our heart is

Nothing worth having comes easy. It is often through our blood, sweat and tears that we arrive to the place we set out for long ago. This is a place where in our darkest hours we wondered if we’d even make it there. What’s curious is that we tend to put all of our focus on the destination, but less focus on the journey there. But it is in the journey that we discover who

We tend to hold ourselves to crazy standards we wouldn’t dare impose on those we love. We forget that even when we feel like we are falling short, there is still beauty and something inside us that we can still give the world. No one is perfect. We have all done things we aren’t proud of. Some of us are survivors of horrific traumas that cause us to feel broken somehow. But just because we

If you’re a Westworld fan, you will recognize this quote. Our darkest times give us the most clarity because it is only when things are dark, we can truly see what is most important to us. It’s like the kind of clarity that someone has as they approach death. They finally know what is most important to them, and they know it in their core. And those things outshine all the other things that maybe

Faking perfection can take up a lot of time. When we spend our time keeping up appearances, we are spending our precious, very limited time here, faking a reality that doesn’t exist. It may look beautiful or cool on the outside, but it isn’t real or authentic. I look at it like this – the clock is ticking no matter what we choose to do. We can spend it trying to make ourselves and our

Self-sabotage is when we engage in behaviors that create issues in our daily life and undermines our long-term goals. It can look like self-medicating behaviors, comfort eating or procrastination. Sometimes self-sabotage is born out of the bullshit stories we tell ourselves about why we can’t reach our goals. We rationalize our behaviors and thoughts so that they fit our story – or what we believe about ourselves or our situation. In the process we create