When our hearts are hungry, we come from a place of lack and increased vulnerability. We are so starved for intimacy and companionship that we overlook red flags and the ability to look at things clearly. We are willing to suspend our disbelief about our partner because we seeking to fill a void within us and looking to feel like we belong or are loved. Think back to some of your relationships. Whether it was

When we focus on all the reasons why we believe something won’t work, we are creating a buffer to protect our ego. If we have low expectations, then when we fail, we won’t feel disappointed.  The funny thing is, we put all our effort and energy into the outcome we don’t want, rather what we do want. Whether we are conscious of it or not, what we believe about ourselves, and our situations determine the

Fear stands for two completely different things: F – ForgetE – EverythingA – AndR – Run AND F – FaceE – EverythingA – AndR – Rise How we see fear determines everything – our mindset, choices we make, etc. Don’t limit yourself by refusing to face your fears. Fear is here to challenge is, to push us out of our comfort zones and allow us to level up.

So many of us run back to what hurt us, looking for happiness. It is human to want to resolve unfinished business. Somehow, we think that if we go back and fix what caused us unhappiness, we will actually be happy. The problem is, often times what needs to be fixed is out of our control. You cannot change someone else. They can change if they want to bad enough, but they have to want

In Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, Harry notices similarities between him and Tom Riddle. Tom Riddle grows up to become Voldemort and Harry is worried that there is evil inside him, too. Dumbledore agrees that they share some traits, but then he tells him, “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”  Our choices reveal what is really in our hearts. What we choose to

It’s completely human to care about what the people who we love think of us. We naturally want to be liked and accepted. Where things start to go off track is when we start listening to other people’s opinions over our own. The truth is, what other people have to say about us can only affect us if we allow it to. We have the say in whether or not their opinion of us is

When it comes to the people closest to us, we tend to tolerate a lot more nonsense than we typically would, with say an acquaintance or co-worker. And there is something about familiarity that makes people feel like it’s okay to unleash hostility onto their targets and treat them in ways they would never treat someone else. About a year ago, my brother and I got into an argument. While he had some very valid

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you already know how I feel about social media. As a culture, we have become enmeshed with posting our “highlight reel” and curated life online. It’s fun to post things online, but far too many of us are preoccupied with likes and comments because we crave that external confirmation that we are good enough. We care about how our life appears, more than how it really