People who hurt you and then flip it to make you the bad guy is crazymaking at its finest. These are the people who are magnificent gaslighters who can deflect and play the victim without blinking an eye. Toxic people condition you to believe the problem isn’t the abuse itself, but instead your reactions to their abuse. And if you ask them to take accountability for what they did, they feel attacked.  Here are some

True creativity requires you to let go of what you know and trust your own madness. The greatest artists, writer and musicians have stepped miles out of their comfort zones to create their art. Up until around age five we don’t conform to societal norms. We learn a lot of that when we enter school. We learn how to stay in the lines when coloring and how to stay in our lane. But before that,

When saying this quote, Lucius Annaeus Seneca was saying that events that can lead to wisdom may come by chance, but to gain wisdom from the situation requires effort and intentionality. Wisdom just doesn’t come through what we go through. We have to want to learn from it. When these things happen, we have to ask the universe, what you are trying to teach me? What do I need to learn? Say you are walking

There are many meanings associated with this quote and they all differ. How I interpret it is akin to the meaning behind you cannot serve from any empty vessel. If you don’t nourish yourself and practice self-care, you won’t be well enough to stand up straight or have the strength you need for your daily life. Some of us tend to over give. I used to be one of those people. I would put everything

When things get bad it can be hard to know that you will make it through it. But when you think about it, you have survived 100% of all that has happened to you. Those are pretty good odds that you will make it through, this, too. When we feel uncertain, we tend to forget how resilient we are. Instead of focusing on external things that we cannot control, we need to turn inwards and

Don Henley said that sometimes you get the best light from a burning bridge. In our society, we are cautioned not to burn bridges. And sometimes that makes sense. For example, in the professional world, it is best not to burn a bridge because you never know when you will cross paths again with those you burned. We often stay stuck in relationships or situations that are emotionally draining and straight up toxic. At one

Often times we get stuck thinking about mistakes we’ve made. Maybe we feel shame or regret and the feeling is so strong, we allow it to define us. Maybe it’s penance we feel we must pay. But our mistakes are just experience, not who we are. I’ve made some pretty big mistakes in my life. But when I look back, I feel grateful for having made them because of what I learned in the process.

Fear is an emotion that can paralyze us. We get scared about what we imagine might happen. 99% of what we fear never actually happens. Yet those odds don’t stop us from worrying about it.  Additionally, 80% of the choices we make are based on fear, not what we actually want. Some neuroscientists say that because humans can learn, think, and create fear in our own minds, we are the most fearful species. Think about