When I was younger, I had a hard time understanding my worth. I naturally found myself in relationships where I wasn’t valued or respected by my partner. I didn’t realize it at the time, but because I didn’t understand my value, I was always negotiating my worth in these relationships. I shared my cautionary tale about this in a previous post.
When you don’t understand your value, you become overly focused on your partner and/or others, seeing and hearing you. For me, I had selected someone who really couldn’t hear or see me consistently. On occasion he would show signs of it, and when he did, I felt so much better, like he was finally seeing and hearing me. That inconsistent reward I felt, kept me chasing it from him and it continued the vicious cycle of me not understanding my worth.
When you understand what you bring to the table in any relationship, you aren’t afraid to eat alone. You know exactly what you have to offer and if someone else can’t see it, you don’t waste your time. You don’t chase it. You let them go because you realize that you are worthy of a love they are unable to provide.
If you don’t see your own worth, you’ll always choose people who don’t see it, either. Value who you are because who you are is amazing. Don’t lose sight of your worth.
