Sometimes we forget how far we have come, and we get stuck on something or someone who we have moved on from. Whether we are feeling guilt, sadness, anger or hurt, somehow what we have already overcome latches on to our present state of being.
Earlier this year I talked about how important healing is because if we don’t heal what hurt us, we will bleed on people who didn’t cut us. Sometimes we are so afraid of something bad happening again, we treat our new partner with distrust, or we will even wound others to try to heal ourselves. And it becomes a vicious cycle.
What we have to remember is that the things that have happened to us are not who we are. They are just experiences. And those experiences have the ability to shape who we are – for good or for bad.
Remember, by choosing to heal and move forward doesn’t mean that the damage never happened. It just means that the you are no longer allowing the damage to control your life.
