There are always going to be people who don’t see your value – just don’t let it be you. And your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
I’ve written a lot about self-worth and how other people see you. When we find ourselves constantly trying to prove our worth to someone, we need to look at ourselves and determine why we need this person to see us. Why are we dependent on someone else to make us feel seen and heard?
We often take how someone else treats us personally, which is understandable. But if we reminded ourselves of how often people cope by projecting onto us, we would learn to take how they choose to see us less personally.
You see, some people see others in a negative way to protect their own ego and sense of self-worth by attributing traits, feelings or actions that they don’t like about themselves onto someone else. For example, if a spouse is cheating on their partner, they may accuse their partner of being unfaithful, when there is no evidence of it.
If someone chooses to see you a certain way, that is their choice. They have that right. I’ve had people in my life who have been so committed to not understanding me. And there was a long period of time that I fought for them to get me because I just wanted them to see and hear me as I truly was. But they didn’t care to.
As heartbreaking as that was for me, I had to learn to let it go. Just because they don’t see my value or true intentions doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
Remember, it is okay to stay away from people who make you feel like you are hard to love. You can remove yourself from people who treat you like your time doesn’t matter, like your feelings are worthless or like your soul is replaceable.
