Do you ever find yourself wishing you were more talkative, outgoing, or confident? Or maybe you think you are too loud and wish you could be more chill as a person. Perhaps you wish you were more logical and analytical, or maybe you wish you were more creative.
These thoughts plague everyone. We wish we were morelike the other person next to us. We agonize, overthink, and even try to change ourselves. Over time, we might even succeed! So, we become a bit more artsy. But then, we see someone who might be better at science or math. We begin to strive to pursue our logical side. As a result? We don’t end up getting anywhere and lose ourselves.
So, what’s a better way to be less distracted by other people’s qualities and more focused on enhancing our own?
1.) Recognize your own strengths. Consider who you are at the core. Who are you? What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? At this point, try to release any labels or preconceived notions that you might be holding onto, such as “being extroverted is good” or “being good at art is admirable”. Just focus on what you are good at, and what you enjoy doing.
2.) Identify your own purpose. Once you know what you are good at, you can start to get clear about your purpose. When you are focused on the path you are on and the direction you are headed towards, you are a lot less distracted by other people’s paths. This is why it’s important to identify your purpose and start to work towards it.
Think about where you are in your life right now. Are you content? Where do you spend most of your time? Are you working towards something or just going with the flow? Is there something you have been wanting to do or work on, but you just haven’t gotten around to it yet?
Spend some time thinking about these questions to find out your purpose. Set a goal or an intention for yourself. Remember, your purpose doesn’t have to be related to a job or a specific project. It doesn’t have to be achieving something; it could even just be about “being”. For example, maybe you want to be more present with your friends. Or maybe you want to be more disciplined in your daily routine.
3.) Stop comparing yourself. Once you have identified your purpose, it is time to commit to it and fill up your life with your intention. Rather than scrolling on social media and comparing yourself to someone else, spend that time living your life mindfully, getting closer to your goal with every action.
If you have been feeling distracted or unmotivated lately, it’s time to take a look at an area of your life that you want to improve.
What results do you want to see in your life? What experiences do you want to have?
Commit to taking the necessary actions that will bring those into your reality. Focus on your life and what you want out of it. While working towards your own goals takes effort and work, you will notice that you won’t have as much time nor energy to compare yourself to others. Instead, you’ll be so caught up in creating the life you want, that it won’t even matter anymore.
