When you take a good look at the people you’ve chosen to include in your life (your team), what do you see? Do you see people who support your decisions, treat you with kindness, and want what is best for you? Or do you see people who look for your weaknesses, pick on your insecurities, and hope for your failure?
The quote, “Make sure everybody in your boat is rowing and not drilling holes when you’re not looking,” means that you need to be careful about who you choose to be on your team because not every teammate is a good teammate.
The Importance of Choosing Your Team Wisely
We all get a say in the people we choose to spend our lives with. Some even refer to their friends as their chosen family or their home team. Finding the best people to fill your team isn’t always easy, but it is extremely important.
Not Everyone Has Your Best Interests in Mind
Real friends always want what is best for you. They want to see you thrive and live your best life. On the other hand, you might have some people in your life who don’t want to see you succeed and may even work to get in the way of your success.
Not Everyone Makes Your Life Better
Real friends are supposed to improve your life. They bring additional joy, happiness, and positivity, and they strive to make you feel the best you possibly can. People who aren’t true friends can tear you down, increase your insecurities, and make you doubt yourself.
Not Everyone is Trustworthy
Real friends value your privacy and keep any information you share with them to themselves. Fake friends tend to share your private information with other people to ruin your reputation or prevent you from receiving certain opportunities.
Not Everyone Influences You in a Positive Way
Real friends influence you to make good decisions and build positive habits. Other people might influence you to build unhealthy habits and persuade you to make a decision that negatively impacts your life.
How to Spot Bad Energy
Clearly, choosing who is a part of your team is important, but how do you spot fake friends among real friends? Well, here are a few tips for spotting bad energy on your team.
They Only Come to You When They Want Something
A friend who always takes from you and never gives anything back is not a real friend.
They Never Offer Support
A fake friend is never there for you when you reach out for support.
They Make Everything a Competition
Fake friends always try to one-up everything you do and make it well known that they are “better” than you are.
They Gossip About You
If you hear that someone shared private information about you with other people, they are not a true friend.
They Make You Feel Exhausted
When being around a person makes you feel exhausted (and not in a good way), they likely aren’t a good influence on your life.
They Don’t Celebrate Your Accomplishments
Fake friends will downplay your accomplishments and make them seem smaller than they actually are. Pay attention to how the people in your life treat you. How they treat you is how they feel about you. You’ll find that your life significantly improves when you eliminate the bad energy from your life. Build a strong team of real friends so that you know everyone in your life has your best interests in mind.