Through the years, I have met a lot of attractive men and women. Unfortunately, for some of them, their outward “beauty” didn’t match who they were on the inside at all. For some, it was almost like because they were so attractive on the outside, they had the expectation of getting away with bad behavior or not having to do things that was their responsibility. Yes, precious. Very unattractive qualities, my love.
The truth is our current outward appearance is temporary. Our weight is temporary. Our wrinkle-free faces are temporary. These things don’t matter as much to me because it is going to constantly change. That’s not to say you shouldn’t try to put forth effort on your appearance, because that is important for our own self-esteem, too. But there are always going to be physically attractive people around. And who you are on the inside is so much more important than the physical.
To me, I don’t really care about how a person looks. I care about who they are at the core. There have been guys that objectively my girlfriends didn’t understand at all why I was attracted to them, but I was because I liked their “vibe.” Their kindness, playfulness, respect, and loyalty made these guys very attractive to me. All of a sudden, I was physically more attracted to them because of who they were and how they carried themselves. And I couldn’t see them any other way.
What you find attractive with someone on the inside (and outside) is something only you can determine. What are the personality traits you value? What is important to you? Have you decided what qualities are important to have in a long-term relationship or possible marriage? What about if you have children? What qualities would you like the mother or father of your children to possess and impart as they get older?