Many of us struggle with feeling like we are good enough. We have these “standards” in our minds for when we will finally be enough. We’ll be enough when we are thin enough, have enough money in the bank, when we get our parenting skills right or when we get that promotion. How we appear on the outside and what other people think of us becomes the determining criteria for whether or not we are good enough.
But the truth is, you are enough as you are. Read that again.
You are enough as you are. You don’t have to change anything about yourself to make you worthy or enough. You are here for a reason and a child of the universe. That alone makes you enough.
While it is human nature to care about what other people think and feel towards us, it can become unhealthy when we replace our own opinions of ourselves with theirs. But let me ask you this…If someone you loved said they were good enough as they are, what would you say to them? What does being enough look like to you, independent of what other people think?
Here are some ways you can begin to see yourself as already being enough.
1. Keep a gratitude journal. Write down at least three things you are grateful for every morning. Even simple things, like feeling grateful for being alive and in good health is worth writing down. Writing down things that you feel thankful for every day will help you realize all that you already have going for you.
2. Define the daily practices of your best self. What does the best version of yourself do every day? This will vary from person to person, depending on what is important to them. But does the best version of yourself exercise daily? Or perhaps a few days per week? Does the best version of yourself make time every day to spend quality time with family? Define the daily practices the best version of yourself does and incorporate them into your life.
3. Stop seeking external validation from others. I once heard this saying and I have adopted it for myself: “What other people think of me is none of my business.” Don’t allow yourself to become shackled by what other people think about you. They have the right to think whatever they want, even if it isn’t true. You don’t need other people to see your worth to know that it is valid and that you are worthy.
Check out Lisa A. Romano’s video about the secret to realizing you are good enough:
