You have a responsibility to become the best version of yourself, and to bloom. It is also your responsibility to make sure you are living your life in places where you can thrive. If you aren’t growing and flourishing, you need to take an honest look at your environment. Is it helping you become the best version of yourself or is it dragging you down?
Think about having a flower in a pot. If it doesn’t bloom, think about its environment, right? Maybe it isn’t getting enough light or water. Or maybe it’s too sunny on that windowsill. Maybe the soil is too acidic, so maybe you need to change that. You might move the plant around to a few different places in your home until you find a place where it can flourish.
If you are in an environment with unhealthy or toxic people, they will likely try to convince you that you are the problem. That your environment with them is bad because of you and that they only behave the way they do because of you. They take zero accountability and responsibility for themselves and how they interact with people.
But just because they can’t acknowledge their bad behavior, doesn’t mean you have to live with it. If you know that on some level that the environment you are in right now is sucking the life out of you, you must change your environment. You can’t expect that the other person will stop being hurtful or crappy. Should they? Of course they should. But if they legitimately don’t believe they are in the wrong, they aren’t going to make an effort to change. And just because they can’t acknowledge how they may be contaminating the environment, doesn’t mean it isn’t happening.
I get how scary it can be to make a change to your environment. And changing that up, doesn’t necessarily mean making a drastic move. Maybe it means instead of spending all your free time with your partner who has toxic tendencies, it’s time to reach out to some friends and go and do something with them. Or maybe it’s time to work on some projects you enjoy and that bring you happiness, rather than be around someone who is negative.
What is your environment like? Is it helping you becoming the best version of yourself, or is it hindering you?