One of my favorite things that Tony Robbins says, is something he says often. He says if you want better answers, start asking better questions. But what does that even mean?
When things happened in our lives, especially bad things, we tend to ask why this is happening to us. Which makes sense, right? Why are all these difficult and sad things happening to me all at once? It’s not fair!
But what if we chose to look at it, as if these things are happening for us? You see, not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear your path. Maybe what is happening to you right now is happening to make room for something better for you.
But even when things are going good in our lives, we should get into the habit of asking ourselves these three questions everyday:
- What is something I can do for someone else today?
- What is something I can do to add value to the world today?
- What is something that I can offer to other people?
Notice how all three questions are focused on action you can take? If you get yourself into the habit of asking yourself these questions every day, you can reframe how you experience your life. Instead of being reactive, and your mental and emotional state being a product of things that are external, you can be the one who shapes and forms your world around you. You are the driver, even if the section of the road you are on is less than ideal. Choosing to take 100% accountability and responsibility for yourself and focusing on what you bring to the table in all situations does something incredible. You train your mind to approach everything that comes your way to problem solve, grow and evolve. You are focused on how you can choose to respond, rather than falling into the mindset of being a victim to your circumstances. You also get more creative with your problem solving. And the more you practice this, the more capable you become of handling challenges and stress more effectively.
