It’s easier for people to take what they don’t like about themselves and find the same weaknesses or flaws in another person and be vocal about it. It temporarily relieves the uncomfortable feelings they have about themselves.
For example, Mary cheated on her history exam. She discovers that John did, too, and she criticizes John for doing the same thing. Mary is taking her own feelings about her own actions and focusing her energy on being critical of John for the same action. Yes, it’s hypocritical. But behind that hypocrisy, is insecurity about how she feels about herself cheating on the exam.
How do we stop this ineffective thought process?
Instead of focusing your feelings on what others are doing, focus on how you are feeling about yourself. Are you proud of the things you are doing? Would you do them around people who you want to respect you? Focus on what works for you in your life and less on what other people do. When someone does something and your first reaction is to criticize what they did, ask yourself the real reason why it bothers you. Is it because you do the same thing and feel bad about it?
Everyone has done things at some point in their lives that they are not proud of. It’s part of human growth and learning who you are. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what other people are doing. You just need to be worried about what you’re doing and whether or not you are consistently make progress to become the best version of yourself.