We all have people in our lives who can be super negative at times. I’ve had my share of being immersed into situations with people who are truly high conflict personalities and just radiate a vibe of immense negativity.
For a while, I had a hard time dealing with the aftermath of being around someone who is negative or high conflict. I would literally feel emotionally drained. And I found if I spent too much time around them, I would start to become negative, too. I guess misery truly does love company.
What I learned along the way, though, was that if someone else’s negativity is affecting me, that is 100% on me. We have complete control over what kind of vibes and thoughts we let into our heads. We also have complete control over how we choose to respond to it. You see, it is our responsibility to hold on to ourselves in those situations and stay on our own frequency.
Now I’m not saying you should just put up with someone else’s nonsense when they are negative, or you’ve had enough. What I am saying is, you can choose to respond in a way that makes you feel proud of yourself and hold on to the person you are, rather than modifying yourself to fit their vibe.
Here’s an example. I have a relative who can be negative at times. I used to allow it to affect my mood after spending time with them and I would just find myself feeling more judgmental towards others or feeling pessimistic. It was a complete change in my personality. And when I reacted that way, it made me feel bad about myself. Notice I used the word react. Now when I respond to situations like that, I don’t allow myself to become infected by their vibe. I hold onto my fun, easygoing personality and I will politely change the conversation, or end it if needed. I refuse to engage in negativity and allow it to mess with my head. And I walk away from the situation feeling proud of my response.
How are negative people affecting your frequency? What can you do to vibrate higher?