When you trust in yourself, and feel confident in your position, there is no need to argue or prove that you are right. You trust that the truth will unfold as it should in due time, and you don’t have to respond to everything going on around you.
Easier said than done sometimes, I know. When dealing with someone who is loud, brazen and insistent on something, it can be tempting to get into the ring with them. But the truth is, you don’t have to prove yourself or your point, especially when they are not wanting to receive what you have to say. They are more interested in what they have to say and being right.
When you engage with a loud, insecure person, you are participating in their own issues. Let them figure out their own issues and rise above it. Vibrate higher.
Video on the REAL Secret to Confidence
About the expression: Confidence is silent. Insecurities are loud.
This popular adage contrasts true confidence with behavior associated with insecurity. The saying suggests that confident individuals don’t feel the need to boast. They aren’t overly flashy, seek attention, or assert themselves to prove their worth. Their self-assurance is inherent and doesn’t require external validation.
On the other hand, the phrase implies that insecurity can lead to overcompensation. You know the type, of course. They brag about themselves. There is no conversation they cannot take over. Often, there people act out to draw attention. This helps them cover up self-doubt or to convince others of their value.
I chose this saying to highlight the idea that quiet confidence is more authentic. On the flip side, loudness can be a facade for underlying vulnerabilities. I hope you found the advise above helpful. And that it encouraged you to reflect on how you carry yourself.
Resources to help you gain greater confidence
If you want to improve your self-assurance to exhibit more quiet confidence, I put together a list of resources that should help.
First, I’ve written about confidence in other posts. Here are a couple I recommend to learn more:
How to Build Resilience and Confidence in Yourself
Second, I have a few books that I can suggest.
“The Gifts of Imperfection” We are our own worst judge. I know that is true for me. If you struggle with seeing all of your flaws, this book can help a lot. If we choose to embrace our imperfections, they lose their power to cripple our confidence.
“The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt” If you know about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) this book will be very familiar. It complements the Brené Brown book above with more strategies to help you overcome insecurities and build genuine self-confidence.
“Feel the Fear… and Do It Anyway” This is an older book, but the message is still so relevant today. I have benefited from the exercises and strategies Susan Jeffers shared.
If you have read any of these books, or have other ones you would suggest, please send me a note, or leave them in the comments.
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