Over time in any relationship, people become super comfortable with each other and stop showing each other the love, admiration and respect that they feel. This familiarity causes them to feel like their partner just knows that they love them. After a while couples stop connecting on an emotional intimate level and begin to focus on criticizing their partners, especially with small things. According to clinician and psychological researcher John Gottman, the number one factor

Have you ever met someone and right off the bat, without even having said a word to each other, you can sense their disdain for you? How does that even happen? We all have energy that we give off. Some people exist with diluted energy…Energy that has been watered down from their own insecurities, hurts, pains and suffering. Sometimes when they meet someone who has a balanced energy, they immediately bristle because that energy comes

Often times we mistake our immediate struggles and adversities as our ultimate destination. We feel trapped, stuck where we are and have no idea that something significantly better is waiting for us on the other side.  Let’s be honest – humans don’t like change. We like to be comfortable. We like our “knowns”. Even if they are suboptimal, we take comfort in what we know. Sometimes things fall apart for a reason.  An old door

Who we are is defined by our daily habits. It is what we do, not what we say we will do. I’ve fallen into the trap of planning out meal plans and exercise routines to lose weight, only to find myself deviating from my plan shortly thereafter. We all can sit down and write out our goals for the next few years and where we want to be, but unless we take daily, consistent action

We often forget how resilient we are when we start to feel insecure. We forget how we have survived 100% of all the bad things that have already happened to us. Focusing externally on feelings of safety will only get us so far. We have to be willing to trust in our own ability to overcome and persevere. If we rely on external things to make us feel safe, we will always be at the

When you harm someone, it is easy to not think about it or forget the impact that you had on them. You can avoid sitting with the feelings of how you hurt someone else. But the person who was harmed always remembers. I think about bullies in school or the workplace. Obviously, there is something going on with them because healthy people don’t go around tearing down other people. However, their impact on other people