If you live for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection.
We all want the people around us to love and accept us. It’s a natural human desire. It becomes a problem when we are so focused external validation, that we only feel good when we get it from others. Think about it. If I only feel good about myself when someone else shows me that I am accepted, then I have put the key to my self-worth in that person’s pocket. And if they flat
Two things prevent us from happiness: living in the past and observing others.
It sounds so simple doesn’t it? Yet it is so difficult to not replay our past or observe other people. When it comes to our past, there is a difference between looking back at fond memories and appreciating them and actually living in the past. We see living in the past show up most in our relationships with others. Sometimes the past was so good we don’t want to leave that place. It’s familiar and
For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.
I wish I had heard this quote years ago as I was a teenager and thought my world was completely over. In reality I was just simply coming undone. I had faced some very real, difficult times and I didn’t understand that coming undone was part of the process of helping me grow into something greater. It’s easy to get lost in our emotions when we are faced with challenges and difficulties. When we feel
Needing nothing attracts everything.
When we come from a place of lack, we enter into a situation with scarcity mindset. As a culture, we tend to focus on what we don’t have. If I had more time, when I’m happy with my weight or when I have enough money, then I will be happy. We base how we feel about ourselves or our situation from a place of not feeling good enough or that we have enough. We become
Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.
Merriam-Webster defines normal as: “conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern” and “according with, constituting, or not deviating from a norm, rule, or principle”. But who determines the standard, regular pattern or rule? For the spider, weaving her web and waiting for the fly is how she survives. It is her normal way of life. For the fly, getting stuck in a web means the end of his life is near. Both experience the
Remove yourself from people who treat you like your time doesn’t matter, like your feelings are worthless or like your soul is replaceable.
How is it that so many of us end up in relationships with people who don’t value us and treat us well? The relationship starts off good, we feel elated being with the person and then one day everything shifts. All of a sudden, it’s like we don’t matter to them and we wonder if we ever did. If this is a pattern you have noticed in your relationships, you need to take an honest
The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.
This Henry David Thoreau quote is one of my favorites when we think about our most precious commodity – time. You see, we are perishable items. There’s nothing like a global pandemic unfolding in front of us that reminds us that all of our time here is limited. We have no idea how long we will be able to breathe in the crisp air, watch a beautiful sunset or hold our loved ones. Our greatest
The hawk with talent hides his talons.
Hawks are majestic creatures that can be ruthless with their prey. They scan their target from a perch or from the air and silently swoop in to catch them. They are incredibly smart, dedicated to getting what they need for survival and vicious when they need to be. In a practical sense, what this means is when you have talent, you don’t have to shout it out to the world. You can be humble. Confidence