This quote was coined by author George R. R. Martin and is also attributed to Game of Thrones character Arya Stark. The series Game of Thrones was adapted from Martin’s epic fantasy series, A Song of Ice and Fire. Fear is a powerful emotion. It feeds stagnation and keeps us from realizing our full potential. We avoid taking risks and we miss opportunities. And if we don’t learn how to master our own fears, we

Whenever I hear this quote I think of Westworld. But it has much older origins. In Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, Friar Lawrence warns Romeo that these violent delights will have violent ends when he secretly marries Juliet. Romeo and Juliet met at a party Juliet’s father has thrown to celebrate finding Juliet a young husband from the aristocracy. He has planned for them to marry. But Romeo crashes the party and as soon as he

There are some people who just love conflict. These high conflict people love it when you lose your shit. They will push your buttons just to see you break and stoop down to their level, so they feel better about their own behavior. Unfortunately for me, but fortunately for you, I have extensive experience in dealing with people who love to see if they can get me to lose it or engage in their toxic

When someone shows you how they feel about you, believe them. Yes, you want to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume that it was unintentional. But when they continue to hurt you and after you’ve told them how much it hurts you, believe that they mean to do it. If they know that they hurt you and continue to do so anyway, you need to start looking at your response to the

When we don’t take a chance in the moment, we may never have another opportunity to take that chance. Or, we might not take chances because we are too busy chasing things the wrong things. What we focus on grows and becomes our reality. In the movie Collateral, the character Max played by Jamie Foxx, is a cab driver. He started driving a cab as “temporary” means to make money while he built his dream

Showing up for yourself and being your own best friend is good self-care. The most important relationship we will ever have is with ourselves so we need to know how to parent ourselves when we need it. One of the most important skills we can learn is how to build resiliency. Facing challenges allows us to develop our own resiliency. Only in overcoming these challenges can we learn that we actually can overcome them and

When I was in high school, I joined the choir because fifth period was the longest period of the day. I didn’t want to be stuck in math or some other class for that long, and I honestly thought that it would be a blow off class. I had a lot of friends involved in music, and I ended up loving chorus. But even more so, the teacher we had was amazing. He was an

It is never too late to do anything. You can change your life at any age. It’s better to show up late, do what you want to do and live the life you want than say it’s too late and never do it. Let me ask you this – what are you doing to make the most out of right now? Because all we really have is right now. Now this can be a hard