Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.
If we wouldn’t talk to other people the way we talk to ourselves, why is it okay that we talk to ourselves so poorly? After all, the most important relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves. A few years ago, I saw a therapist. One of the things we talked about was the fact that I had some people in my life who compounded some of the negative beliefs that I had
Necessity knows no law.
Desperate times call for desperate measures. In the 1991 movie Robin Hood Prince of Thieves, there’s a scene that fully encompasses the saying, “Necessity knows no law.” Robin has just gotten back from fighting in the Crusades and sees several soldiers and their dogs chasing a small boy who hides up in a tree. When the men start to cut it down, Robin intervenes and asks why six men and their dogs are chasing this
Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.
In an interview with Brené Brown, Oprah Winfrey talked about shame when it comes to sexual abuse. She said that the act itself is something that people are able to move beyond, but it is the shame that you carry that makes it so damaging long term. Like Brené says in the video, shame is lethal. She says that shame needs three things to grow in our lives: secrecy, silence and judgment. Those three things
Don’t let the past steal your present.
The present is really all we have right now, yet many of us spend way too much time in both the past and future. We knowing thinking about the present comes from anxiety of what will happen, but what about the past? Why are some of us preoccupied with things that have already happened? While it is human nature to time travel, prolonged thoughts about things that have already happened are usually fueled by guilt,
Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.
Aside from writing this blog, I have a growing, successful YouTube channel that I work on with my husband. It is completely unrelated to this blog, and it is extremely labor intensive. We write, produce, and edit everything ourselves. We’ve been working on it now for two years and when I think back to our humble beginnings, I am proud of how far we have come. When we first started the channel, as much
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
In Viktor Frankl’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning, he said this quote. Frankl was an Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, philosopher, author, and Holocaust survivor. His book chronicles his experiences as a prisoner in Nazi concentration camps during World War II. He describes how he got through the horrors he lived through while in Auschwitz. He also explains his psychotherapeutic method, which involved identifying a purpose in life to feel positive about, and then focusing on imagining
Trust everyone but cut the cards.
In the 1998 movie Hope Floats, and Birdie Pruitt has been chosen as a guest on the Toni Post talk show on the premise that she’s getting a free makeover. They blindfold her, put her on the stage, and when she takes the blindfold off, she’s sitting on national television with her husband Bill and Connie, her best friend. Unfortunately, it’s soon revealed that Bill and Connie have an ongoing affair. He requests a divorce,
Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.
When you feel wounded, insulted, or offended by another person, it’s a wonderful opportunity to look a little closer at your own self-perceptions and beliefs. Very often, the people around you are simply mirroring the way you feel about yourself, or revealing a belief you hold about yourself. For example, if you often feel dismissed or devalued by the people in your life, it could be because on some level you believe that your voice