Our feelings, whether emotional or physical, are all messengers. If you’re like me, emotions can physically show up sometimes before you can mentally acknowledge it. Sometimes it is only the physical symptoms that cause me to slow things down and ask myself what I’m really feeling. Emotions are a means of feedback to our body. It’s a way for our body to pick up on sensory inputs, translate the information and then send it to

For years I was a total pro at compartmentalizing my feelings and emotions. I was often dealing with hostile and volatile people. As a way to survive it, I repressed my feelings and just went on as normal, like everything was okay and my life was good. And things looked great on the outside. But on the inside, I was dying. What I learned along my way was that whenever you avoid conflict to keep

If you have a problem with something someone does and they don’t see it as a problem, it is unlikely that they will change. We all have our own definitions of what is okay and what isn’t, as well has standards that we have for our relationships. A few years ago, a friend of mine found herself in quite the dilemma with her then husband. She gave me permission to share her story. At the

In The Dark Knight Rises, this quote is spoken by Miranda Tate (Talia al Ghul). After Talia stabs Batman, she monologues the big reveal of who she really is and who is really behind the mayhem happening in Gotham. She describes her patience in waiting to exact revenge on Batman for killing her father as the slow knife that takes its time and waits years without forgetting. I’ve written a few posts about holding onto

When we are growing and changing, it can feel like we are losing something. We might lose the things that we used to be good at, the people we love, or the things that made us feel comfortable. But growth is necessary for us to become the people we are meant to be. So even though it might feel scary or painful, we should embrace it. What Exactly Will You Lose? Growth will often require

A couple of years ago, I wrote a post about how toxic people will condition you to believe that your normal response to their disrespect or toxic behavior is actually the problem, not their behavior that caused the reaction. They are masters at gaslighting and manipulation and do it so naturally…it’s disturbing. You can read the post here. I’ve dealt with my own share of manipulators like this. And it usually goes like this: They

In a world of hardship and stress, it’s easy to forget the simple joys in life that can make all the difference. This Irish proverb is a reminder that sometimes the best medicine is just a good laugh and a restful night’s sleep. Whether you’re facing a challenging day at work or struggling with personal issues, taking a moment to step back and enjoy a good laugh can help you put things in perspective and

When a person hasn’t dealt with their past wounds and traumas, their issues surrounding them will inevitably come up in their romantic relationships. Why does this happen? Because when we haven’t dealt with and integrated these things from our past, we unconsciously seek resolution to those issues with our current partner. But the resolution is found within that person, By turning outward to find it, it is a sure fire way to end up disappointed