Today’s quote is, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” When we are focused too much on our fears, we forget to live. When you think about it, 99% of the things that we fear and worry about never happens. Yet we stay stuck in a pattern of living our daily lives shackled by these fears that will likely never come to fruition. Why are we living our fears rather than our dreams?
Today’s quote, which is one of my favorites, is “Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won't have a title until much later.” Now I know this is easy to say when you aren’t feeling uncertain. We are hardwired to crave certainty in our lives. In an article for Entrepreneur, Tony Robbins notes certainty as one of our basic human needs and defines this need as follows:
Today’s quote is, “It is not your responsibility to heal, save, punish or control other people.” There are times in our lives where we tend to take on responsibility for things that we aren’t responsible for. And for some of us, myself included, we find ourselves in this place more often than not. It’s like we have this automatic response to jump in and start ‘managing’ a situation or trying to control things that we have absolutely no control over. It’s ineffective, yet so instinctual.
Today’s quote reads, “When the roots are deep, there is no reason to fear the wind.” Knowing who you are, what you are made of and what you are capable of can make you unstoppable. I’ve seen so many people go through horrific traumas or endure years of abuse and they come out of it all, and you would never know how bad things were because they appear so strong. But what allows us to get through these difficult times and bounce back stronger is resilience. When we are resilient, it doesn’t matter how strong the winds are, we stay there standing strong with roots completely in place, withstanding whatever may come.
When I was younger, I needed external validation so much that I chased it, from the all wrong people and for all the wrong reasons. I found it to be incredibly lonely then because I never felt like I was good enough without their validation. The problem with relying on external validation to feel good about yourself is that what you get is never enough. It can never be enough, because the feeling that you are seeking, only comes from inside yourself and is one only you can provide.
How is it that so many of us end up in relationships with people who don’t value us and treat us well? The relationship starts off good, we feel elated being with the person and then one day everything shifts. All of a sudden, it’s like we don’t matter to them and we wonder if we did to cause this dramatic change. If this is a pattern you have noticed in your relationships, you need to take an honest look at what you believe to be true about yourself.
If we struggle to see our worth, our brains will actively seek out information or “evidence” to push through the filter that validates and confirms what we believe about ourselves. Our brains will purposely seek out people who confirm the negative (or positive) beliefs we have about ourselves.
Today’s quote over on our website is, “Stay away from people who make you feel like you are hard to love.” Engaging with people who consistently make you feel like you are hard to love can take a toll on your self-esteem. People who do this tend to be toxic, too. When you love someone, you want to lift them up, encourage them and be their biggest cheerleader – not tear them down and constantly assault their character.
