When someone tells you something is impossible, don’t take it personally. They either don’t want to see you succeed or don’t think it would be possible for them. They are projecting their own insecurities onto you, which is why you can’t take unsupportive words to heart. It says a lot more about their limiting beliefs about themselves than you.
When you set big goals, you are challenging any limiting beliefs you have. You are taking a chance on yourself even if it seems scary. That is commendable. The thing about taking chances is it moves you forward. Even if you fail, you will still have moved closer to what you want. The universe works in mysterious ways. But one thing is for sure, those who try and try again are greatly rewarded over those who don’t try at all!
If you have those types of naysayers in your life, or negative reinforcers, as I like to call them, remember these things:
Keep your head up.
Don’t forget why you want what you want. Your “why” should be strong enough never to lose conviction. Remember that the opinions and attitudes of other people do not reflect your beliefs. It can be hard when someone doesn’t believe in you, but it can drive you to go that much harder. If they don’t pick you up when you fall and instead laugh at you, they will become a blockade to your success– if you let them. They can doubt you all you want, but you must believe in yourself.
Don’t overthink it.
Over-analyzing other people’s thoughts is time-consuming. The only opinions you need to focus on are your own. Exhausting your mind by being concerned with what other people think and say will waste your precious time focusing on their life instead of your own.
Don’t wait for approval.
Don’t wait for approval to go after your dreams. Take the motivation and determination you feel and go forward into the unknown and see where it takes you.
Resist the negativity.
If someone in your life can’t accept that you are trying something, even though it may be scary and challenging, communicate with them that you are no longer interested in discussing the matter with them. If they don’t respect that boundary, let them know that you will need to distance yourself from them if they can’t support you. Your dreams and goals come first. Make it clear that you need positive people around you, and if they cannot be a positive influence in your life, then the relationship will not be healthy for you.
