In the book A Game of Thrones, when referring to the Lannisters, Ned’s feelings are described as “some old wounds never truly heal, and bleed again at the slightest word.” I think many of us can relate to this feeling. When someone has wronged or hurt us in an immeasurable way, any reminder of it can instantly re-open those wounds. How does one move on from a wound so deep?
Last year I wrote a post titled, If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you. It is one of the most viewed posts on our site and I think we all need to be reminded of it at times. To live a fulfilling life, we have to heal from what has hurt us in the past. Otherwise, all our unresolved issues will bleed into our current relationships, and we will seek resolutions to our past traumas. The problem is, we will never find the resolutions in our current relationships because they weren’t the cause of the trauma to begin with.
Sometimes, when a relationship has been shattered to pieces, the only way you may be able to heal from it is to remove the person who caused so much pain and heartbreak from your life. I believe that most wounds can be healed with time, but some just can’t. After thinking on it for some time and you determine that it can’t be fixed, it is best to acknowledge it, allow yourself to feel the loss and move on.
Are you dealing with some old wounds that haven’t fully healed? What steps can you take to begin to heal and give yourself the love and peace of mind you deserve?
