Last year I wrote a post about when you live for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection. In it, I was pretty vulnerable and talked about my own feelings of not being good enough and being so dependent on external validation that I really lost my way. You can read the full post here, but I wanted to share some things you should remember if you are struggling with being yourself:
- Nothing outside of you can ever take away how you feel about yourself.
- Being real and authentic with yourself, flaws and all – the good, the bad and the ugly and accepting it is the solid foundation of building self-worth.
- Be gentle with yourself. If you spoke to a friend the way you speak to yourself, what would they say?
- Eliminate negative self-talk and focus on positive affirmations.
- Always be improving yourself for you. What are you good at? What are you interested in?
- What other people think of you is none of your business.
- There is only one “you”. You have something that only you can give to this world.
- You are unshakeable and incredibly resourceful.
- When you begin to love yourself, you will tolerate less nonsense.
- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
- You owe yourself the love that you give so freely to other people.
- Stop hating the experiences that shaped you.
- The same light you see shining in others is in you, too.
