When you feel wounded, insulted, or offended by another person, it’s a wonderful opportunity to look a little closer at your own self-perceptions and beliefs. Very often, the people around you are simply mirroring the way you feel about yourself, or revealing a belief you hold about yourself.
For example, if you often feel dismissed or devalued by the people in your life, it could be because on some level you believe that your voice doesn’t matter, or that no one cares to hear what you have to say. If you often feel victimized or afraid, it could be because deep down inside, you feel vulnerable and powerless.
Did you notice the key word that reveals the path to the solution? It’s all about the way you feel, and most especially the way you feel about yourself. Your feelings offer a big clue about your beliefs and perceptions.
Take a moment to think about the patterns that keep repeating in your life. How do you usually feel in your interactions with other people, and what might that reveal about the way you perceive yourself? Also notice if there are recurring themes of scarcity or struggle in your finances, your relationships, or your health and well-being.
Then use this awareness to begin building a new perception of yourself as a person who cannot feel injured, or insulted, or offended. A wonderful thing happens when you begin to recognize that no other person has control over your thoughts and feelings except you. You cannot be devalued if you refuse to feel invaluable. You cannot be wounded if you refuse to see yourself as weak and vulnerable.
Spend time each day deciding who you want to be, and then practice seeing yourself that way. See yourself being fully confident, strong, self-reliant, and fearless. See yourself being respected and appreciated by other people. See yourself having genuine, mutually beneficial interactions with the people around you.
Create a daily practice of feeling good about yourself, building yourself up, and accentuating your positive characteristics. Treat yourself the way you wish to be treated by other people. Speak kindly to yourself and be more gentle and understanding of yourself in all things. The more you do this, the more you will notice that other people are starting to treat you that way too. The more positive and empowering you can make your self-image, your outer life will reflect those qualities in your interactions with others.
Then repeat this same process with your overall quality of life. If you noticed patterns of scarcity in your finances or your state of health, begin changing that perception of yourself to something better. Rather than seeing yourself as a person who struggles financially, begin seeing yourself as a person who is truly abundant, with endless opportunities to receive more abundance. Rather than seeing yourself as ill or unwell, begin seeing yourself as a person who is getting better and stronger every day.
Whatever you wish to see reflected in your outer life, create it first within you. Feel it as if it were your truth, and the outer reflection will change to match the inner truth.
