Fools often can’t stop themselves from stating their opinions and telling anyone and everyone who will listen just what they think. A wise man on the other hand, is more interested in hearing what others have to say. He knows he will learn something new, or he just likes to take in all the information and draw his own conclusions silently. He knows that he will learn more about a situation listening rather than talking. He has no need to spout out wisdom or opinions so that others will notice him.
Sometimes we get so caught up in the moment, we don’t listen to others as well as we’d like to. Here are some tips on how you can become a better listener.
1.) Be present with who you are listening to. The best gift you can ever give someone else is your time and attention. Really be present in the conversation. Make eye contact. Connect with them and what they are saying. Eliminate distractions like your phone.
2.) Listen to learn. Sometimes we listen to someone and as they are talking, we think we have things figured out. Think of each conversation as a place where you can learn something. Take in information rather than commenting on everything that is said.
3.) Don’t wait to talk. Are you really listening or are you really waiting to talk? The fool waits to talk. Don’t be a fool. When you are waiting to talk, the person with you can sense it. Choose to show how good of a friend you are by being present and not just waiting to talk.
4.) Choose your response thoughtfully. When you slow things down and listen more, you can form better responses that are well thought out. You are basing your response on having gathered more information, so you are coming from a better place to contribute to the conversation.
Your turn…Do you actively listen or do you wait to talk?
