There are times in life when forcefulness is necessary, but there are also situations where pushing too hard only causes problems and slows your progress. This is especially true when pursuing goals or creating positive changes in your life. If you try to force things to happen too quickly, you end up feeling stressed and frustrated with little results to show for it.
On the other hand, when you relax your grip and allow events to unfold with their own perfect timing, things will usually happen much more quickly and easily, and you end up feeling good the whole way through.
If you are in the habit of trying to force things to happen, whether it’s an important goal that you’re working toward, or even trying to control the people and events in your daily life, it can be worthwhile to examine your underlying motivations and release any conflicting beliefs that could be slowing you down.
For example, attempting to control everything around you could reveal a fear that you will not get what you want, so you feel compelled to make it happen yourself. This fear might be based on any number of beliefs, such as a belief that you are unworthy, or a belief that the universe is cruel or indifferent and will not support you.
To determine your own beliefs, ask yourself, “Do I believe that I must push or force things to happen? Do I believe in a loving, supportive universe, or do I need to make things happen all on my own?” Notice any feelings that come up in your body. If any limiting beliefs are present, you will notice feelings such as fear, worry, sadness, isolation, or emptiness.
Once you have identified the beliefs that are driving you to push too hard, you can begin releasing them and developing more supportive beliefs. A good way to begin this process is with your self-talk. Say, “I release the belief that the universe won’t support me or help me. I now choose to believe that good things happen for me when I let go and trust.”
Rewriting your beliefs takes a little time and persistence, but once the new beliefs take root, you will notice a marked difference in the way you feel. Rather than feeling anxious or worried, or trying to force things to happen on your own, you will feel more relaxed and trust that everything will work out. You will feel as if life is working for you, rather than against you. Even when obstacles appear or delays happen, you will be unconcerned about them, knowing that things have a way of working out in your favor eventually.
Before long, you will notice that life is responding differently to you. The more relaxed and detached you are, the easier things will flow. Positive events and circumstances will start showing up spontaneously, without any effort required on your part. When you do need to take action on something, it will feel easier rather than difficult and draining. And it just continues to get easier the more you practice letting go and allowing ease and flow in all areas of your life.
