Sometimes things go wrong. Maybe we start a business and fail or we move to a new city but come back, feeling lonely and drained. Sometimes people judge us when this happens. During these situations, it can be easy to start doubting ourselves. However, in order to go through and grow through these difficult situations, it is necessary to return to who we are deep within and trust ourselves.
In uncertain times, you have to be able to fall back onto yourself and trust yourself. No matter what is happening around you, don’t lose confidence in yourself.
5 Ways to Trust Yourself
Accept Your Current Situation
The first step to being able to trust in yourself is to accept the situation. If something unexpected just happened, this might not be your first instinct. We like to blame, run away, or avoid tough situations. It’s easy to even dump the responsibility onto someone or something else.
However, this is not a sign of trust. This is a sign of avoidance. To trust yourself, you have to accept that things did not go according to plan. How can you trust someone who avoids the situation? Own up to it. Not only will this help you trust yourself, but it also makes other people trust you more.
Positive Self Talk
When something goes wrong, it’s incredibly easy to start beating yourself up about it. However, this will never result in self-trust. In fact, it’s going to have the opposite effect. When you start criticizing yourself and saying things like “I can never do things right” or “Whatever I try always goes wrong”, you just further attract situations like that and reduce your self-confidence.
Notice what thoughts you have about yourself. Are they positive or negative? If you realize that you tend to have self-deprecating thoughts, try catching yourself and reframing them into something more positive. How you talk to yourself matters!
Accept Yourself
One of the most important foundations of trusting yourself is to accept yourself for who you are. Don’t be afraid of judgment or standing out from the crowd. When you pretend to be someone you are not, you immediately become untrustworthy. When you feel like someone is lying to you, can you trust them? Of course not! So how can you trust yourself when you know you are being inauthentic. Embrace your quirks, your mistakes, and your weirdness – they are what make you who you are. And the truth is, the world needs who you were made to be.
Build on Your Strengths
To trust yourself, you need to know what skills you can rely on. You need to be aware of your strengths and build on them. If you aren’t sure what your strengths are, ask people who know you well. Spend time improving your strengths, rather than criticizing yourself about your weaknesses.
Spend Time with Yourself
One of the foundations of trusting yourself is knowing yourself. As you spend time with yourself, you can become more aware of your thoughts, biases, and behaviors. Just like any other relationship, the more you get to know yourself, the more trust you can build with yourself.
In conclusion, trusting yourself is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. When you trust yourself, you build the confidence to work towards your goals, to get up when you fail and try again, to stand up for what you want, and to pursue your dreams.
