We often spend a great deal of time on positivity and keeping our mindsets in a good and peaceful place. And no matter how hard we try; negativity sometimes creeps in and gives us a run for our money. Whether it’s from someone we know or someone we don’t, it can be tough to drown out the negative chatter and stay focused on our mission.
The best way to combat the not-so-positive counterparts is this: “Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” While that may be easier said than done, it’s worth exploring some ways you can stay focused on your path when faced with negativity and criticism from others.
1. Understand if what you are hearing is negativity or constructive criticism. The first thing to consider is whether the negativity you’re experiencing is intentional or constructive criticism. The difference between the two lies in delivery and intention. However, sometimes words can hurt regardless of intent.
It’s usually apparent when someone acts maliciously towards another. But, sometimes, our sensitivities make us feel disheartened when a person is trying to give sound advice.
Think about what the person is saying. Then, accept it and apply where necessary if you think it’s something that furthers your growth. And if it’s not something worthwhile, simply dismiss and move on to better things.
2. Detach yourself. Being emotionally attached to the negative energies that surround you can be draining. That’s why detaching can help alleviate stress and allow you to relax. In addition, doing this can get you away from drama and unnecessary situations that promote a pessimistic outcome.
If you’re experiencing negativity from an outside source in your life, it can be hard to keep yourself grounded. During these times, detaching emotionally and physically can provide some assistance in staying focused. Here are some tips for detachment.
- Construct boundaries and enforce them
- Communicate your intentions
- Practice meditation
- Find a quiet place to relax
- Do a social media cleanse
3. Look for the positive. Looking for the positive while in a negative situation might seem difficult. Negativity tends to consume, and reactions and emotions often run amuck until a calmer state is reached. So, understandably, finding the light is easier said than done in some situations.
For example, a young man had a rough childhood because his parents weren’t there for him as a kid. And when they were in the picture, it was always messy, and challenging situations often arose.
When he got older, he decided to go to therapy, and the first thing he told the doctor was that he could be angry at times. He could walk around living his life being mad at everyone who had nothing to do with his upbringing. However, he decided that this wasn’t the path he should follow, as it sounded exactly like what his parents had done with him.
Wise beyond his years, he concluded that he respected his parents for one reason alone: They collectively taught him who he shouldn’t become as an adult.
Not everyone has this same story to tell, but because he changed his perspective, he changed his life, and it’s entirely possible for anyone to flip the script.
4. Read between the lines. Sometimes, people are mysterious, and they tell us who they are without knowing what they’re doing. For example, an “I hate you” from the mouth of your teenager translates into “I’m mad” or “my feelings are hurt.” And it’s often the same for adults.
So, it makes sense when you’re faced with a nay-sayer to stop and pay attention to the context- even if you don’t know them. Their negative attitude and criticism may be based on something that has absolutely nothing to do with you. And reading between the lines can bring you peace in an otherwise toxic situation.
5. Let it go. Let all the negativity roll off your shoulders like raindrops. Not only will you find peace in toxic situations, but it can be incredibly liberating to cut off ties to things that weigh you down.
Our brains like to hold onto things that have no use in our daily lives. So, while this is the most crucial step, it’s also the most difficult. And if you’re wondering how to begin this step, here are some things to try.
- Keep a journal
- Keep self-care on the top of your list
- Find a way to get closure
- Practice mindfulness
Remember, inner peace is difficult to achieve. And when negative energies come through and try to wreck the peaceful village you’ve built, it’s upsetting. But here’s the kicker. You can’t control the negative from outside sources any better than you can control the weather. However, putting things into place like detachment and finding the positives can help deflect from straying from your path.
