Have you ever been with someone who has brought out a negative side in you? Maybe it was a friend in high school with whom you used to gossip. Perhaps it was a relationship in which your partner brought out all your insecurities.
Who we spend time with plays a big role in our lives. Our behaviors, actions, and mindsets are often influenced by people we spend a lot of time with.
This can be a beneficial thing when we surround ourselves with kind, positive, inspiring, and uplifting people with a growth mindset. However, if we find ourselves with people who are negative, always complaining or blaming, and trying to find the worst in other people, we can also find ourselves being pulled down by that negativity. Remember, misery loves company.
It’s better to be extremely circumspect with who you spend time with, and sometimes it can be better to be alone.
Here are 3 reasons why it is better to be healthy alone, than sick with someone else.
1. You can focus on your own growth. Rather than spending time with people who are always complaining or being negative, you can focus on your own personal growth. With so much time for yourself, you can spend time learning, reading, picking up a new hobby, and achieving your goals. Not only can you do all the things you never had time for earlier, but you can focus on your self-improvement and create a more positive lifestyle for yourself, free of negativity and drama.
2. You get to know yourself better. Spending time alone is a beautiful experience. As much as I love spending time with others, I also cherish the time I have for myself. You get to know yourself better, you become more confident, and you become stronger. You figure out what you like, how you like to spend your time, and what makes you happy. By learning more about yourself and spending time with yourself, you also increase your confidence since you no longer need to rely on others to feel safe. By being able to spend time alone, you don’t need people to feel good.
3. You can attract other positive people. Choosing to be alone rather than surrounding yourself with negative people gives you the huge benefit of attracting the kind of people you want in your life. If you are in a toxic relationship, the right person will think you are unavailable. If you surround yourself with people you call your friends, but who bring you down, then you might never find your real tribe. However, by disconnecting with people you don’t want to be with, you leave space in your life for the kind of people who you do want. It’s easy to surround yourself with people who are full of negativity to avoid being alone. As human beings, we crave community and social acceptance. However, it’s important to consider the negative impacts that spending time with the wrong kind of people can have on you. At the end of the day, it is your choice: would you rather be alone and healthy or with people who harm your soul just to avoid being lonely?
