Have you ever felt like people are judging you? Maybe you posted a picture you thought looked really good on Instagram, but you got some negative comments? Maybe you told a friend about a success in your life, but they made you feel bad about your win.
If you’ve ever been in a situation with unnecessary negativity, you’re not alone. There are always going to be people who want to pull you down, discourage you, or assert their opinion. Their difference of opinion may even stem out of their own sense of love or concern.
What’s important to remember is that you have a choice how you respond. You can remain confident in yourself, or let others’ opinions and judgements tear you down.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what others think or say about you – and here are 4 reasons why.
Why it doesn’t matter what others think
1. They are projecting their own issues. Most often, people who criticize or judge are actually judging parts of themselves. Then they project that on to you. They are insecure or jealous, and they make themselves feel better by putting you down. For example, if someone didn’t have the courage to pursue a career as an artist, they might judge another artist for her ‘poor lifestyle’. Remember, only hurt people, hurt people.
2. They can only win if you let them. Have you ever noticed that when a bully sees that their victim isn’t bothered by the bullying, the bully stops? That’s because negativity feeds off of negativity. As soon as you stop caring about what someone is doing or saying to hurt you, they will stop bothering you.
So, the next time someone comments negatively on a post, says something rude, or gossips about you, turn the other way. It doesn’t matter what they think; stay confident and wear your crown high.
3. There will always be someone you can’t please. Out of 7 billion people in the world, it is going to be impossible to please everyone. No matter how hard you try, there will be some aunt, cousin, high school friend, or colleague who disproves of something in your life. If you keep trying to please everyone, you will inevitably fail, while also exhausting yourself in the process. You can’t win this situation.
Instead of trying to keep everyone happy, focus on pleasing the only person you CAN please: YOU. Do what you want to do!
4. Life is too short. Life is too short to worry about what others think about you. If you try to please everyone around you, you won’t have any time or energy left to do what you want. Do you want to reach the end of your life full of regret and resentment because you were worried too much about other people? Of course not!
Remember, there will always be critics in your life. When someone ‘hates’ on you, the best way to deal with the situation is to be the bigger person, show them empathy, forgive them, and move on with your life in the way you want.
Instead of worrying about haters, focus on being the person who lifts others up. Be the light of love and encouragement in the darkness of haters and critics. Vibrate higher.
