Do you try to resist change when it shows up in your life? It’s understandable that you might feel some resistance when facing negative or unwanted changes. But do you also try to resist even positive change, just because it feels too different or scary? Like many other people, you might prefer your life to be stable and predictable. When life throws an unexpected curve ball your way, suddenly it feels as if you’re standing on shaky ground, which might cause you to dig in your heels and resist the changes.
The problem is, the harder you fight against change, the worse you feel and the worse your situation will usually become. Resisting change can actually make your challenges more intense and complicated. Not only do you end up digging in your heels, you end up struggling at the bottom of a deep hole constructed from fear.
Every time you view change as threatening or scary, it actually projects negative expectations onto your future experiences. This not only makes you feel fearful in the moment, but it also makes it more likely that you will actually attract unpleasant outcomes through those changes.
But, if you can trust that all changes, good or bad, can still lead to positive outcomes, suddenly the whole process feels less scary. Perhaps change can lead to new opportunities. Learning to confidently embrace change requires a bit of trust, courage, and willingness to go with the flow.
A good first step is to begin building your trust in a loving universe that will support you in everything you need. Keep affirming to yourself, “Everything happens for my highest good, including this experience.” Stating your intention that good will come from the situation will help you to feel more optimistic as you face the uncertainty of change. It will also project a positive expectation into the energy mix, which can attract more beneficial outcomes.
Next, strengthen your courage by reminding yourself that you can handle whatever changes come your way. Build a mental image of yourself as strong, resilient, and adaptable. Remind yourself that you always have options available to you, no matter the circumstances. Practice seeing change as a field of endless opportunities that you can pick and choose from as you like. When you empower yourself in this way, the fear subsides, and you begin to feel excited about change and the good that will come from it.
Lastly, do your best to make peace with the fact that change is the only constant in life. Everything is in a constant state of change, including mountains, canyons, oceans, and yes, us humans as well. Resisting that truth is futile and will only lead to more pain and frustration.
If you choose to let go and practice flowing with life’s changes, your lack of inner resistance will soften the process. Change won’t seem so uncomfortable anymore. You may even be pleasantly surprised to discover that you are coming to enjoy the uncertainty of change because it feels exciting and interesting, rather than predictable and boring.
