The king of horror himself, Stephen King, said these words. As a culture, we are fascinated by horror movies and books. Some of us are obsessed with true crime. I have my theory about that one. I think there is a biological/psychological reason why we are so interested in crime. If we know what to look for and what we can learn from these situations that resulted in horrific crimes, we won’t get fooled and end up being a victim, too. It’s a psychological buffer we create to help us feel safe. After all, most crime victims know their attackers well. But does it really make us safe?
Being that this is a mindset blog, I think of this quote a little differently. When we look at our past, we all have baggage and scars from previous relationships and even our family of origin. Sometimes our past hurts and fears can transfer into new relationships because we fear the same thing happening again.
Say you were cheated on in a previous relationship and you were devastated. If you haven’t healed from it, is it likely that you might become more suspicious of your current partner, even if he or she isn’t doing anything? Maybe they put their phone down really quick when you walked into the room and your ex did that when he was cheating. So you start to wonder if your current partner is doing that.
If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.
Have you fully healed from past trauma?
