Often times we give and give to others, hoping to get the same back from them. When we don’t get it, we wonder why we aren’t worthy of it in their eyes. Or we keep on giving and hoping the other person will see it and give us the love or validation we want.
The truth is, you are worthy. Just as you are. And your worthiness doesn’t decrease just because someone else can’t see it. Sometimes the person we seek love from can’t give it to us back in the same way. Or they don’t realize what we need (and we don’t directly convey it) so they don’t give us what we are looking for.
The way I like to look at it is what others give me, is a lovely bonus. It is my job to be responsible and accountable for myself and my feelings. And that means giving myself what I need and not depending on others to give it to me or validate me in some way.
It’s nice to get love, support and validation from others, but that shouldn’t be what we rely on to feel okay.
Here are some things to remember when showing yourself the unconditional love you deserve:
- Accept yourself flaws and all. No one is perfect and we are going to make mistakes along the way.
- Forgive yourself for mistakes you have made. We learn a lot about who we are and what we want by making mistakes. They are just part of the process.
- Practice self-care daily. Whether it’s getting in physical exercise, writing in a journal, meditating or doing something that recharges you, make it a daily habit.
- Make peace with your inner critic. Be nice to yourself. It’s okay to be unhappy with yourself about some things. Just stop attacking yourself. Acknowledge your feelings about it and focus your energy and thoughts on what you are doing to change the things you don’t like. We are all works of progress and we are not in a race.
- Prioritize relationships that inspire you or make you feel recharged.
Showing yourself unconditional love and believing in what you deserve sets the standard for how you wish to be treated. And you will be amazed at what you attract when you start believing in what you deserve.
