How many times have you been angry and regretted saying something to someone you love, the minute those words rolled of your tongue? I know I have. Many times.
I’ve gotten into the habit when I am really upset about something that is a big deal, of giving myself 24 hours to let things calm down and really think about how I feel about what happened. In the past, I’ve really struggled with being able to articulate exactly how I feel, or even that I am hurting. Giving myself that time helps me reflect, organize my thoughts and feelings, see the other person’s perspective and game plan how I want to address the issue.
Many times, we will find yourselves rehashing our own personal traumas in our relationships. It is so important to heal ourselves from what has hurt us. Otherwise, we end up carrying that baggage into other relationships and we can bleed on people who didn’t cut us. And honestly, we end up sabotaging our other relationships because we are coming from a wounded place.
We are responsible for our own closure. Our peace of mind and ability to move on should never be in someone else’s hands.
