Everyone has their demons. They can take the form of addictions, procrastination, lack of purpose, maladaptive ways of relating to the world, unhealthy relationships, etc. They can consume us and erode our soul. The key to defeating these demons is internalizing that they no longer work for us and the life we want to live. It’s very simple solution, yet so hard to truly implement and let go of the things that will destroy us if we continue on that path.
We keep our demons around because we know them – for good and for bad. Even if they are completely dysfunctional and mess with our life, they are known. Sometimes we just don’t know how to be without them. And sometimes, they don’t seem to be so bad for us. These demons are super sneaky deceivers.
Here are some things to remember when trying to change behaviors and patterns that no longer serve you:
- Focus on adding the new healthy behaviors at first instead of focusing on what you shouldn’t do.
- Be compassionate with yourself. At some point these behaviors served some purpose in your life. You adapted the best way you could in the situation. But now you have more tools in your toolbox and don’t need those old, ineffective tools anymore.
- Know that as you make changes, it might get stressful. If you want to have a different life, you have to be willing to do things that you’ve never done before. And at first, it will be stressful.
- Change your people, places and things that support the changes you are trying to make in your life. Be around those who inspire you to be better and support a healthier version of you.
- Be patient with yourself. Great changes don’t happen in a linear fashion. Sometimes you take a step back, and that’s okay. Just keep moving in the right direction.
And remember, monsters live in the dark. The things that trigger your demons don’t have to be faced alone. Have someone you can talk to who can support the changes you are making.
