Sometimes in the relationships that are the most meaningful to us, we can start to forget our worth. This can happen by us putting others before ourselves too much and by other people taking advantage of us to further their own agenda. Often times other people are oblivious to what they are doing, and sometimes, well, they can be quite calculating.
As the sayings go, we teach people how to treat us and what we allow will continue. As a person who tends to over give, I have had to learn the hard way how to not only hold onto myself in my relationships, but to recognize when I need to remind myself of my worth and stand up for myself.
Here are some things to remember when you feel like you’ve lost sight of your self-worth:
- You are not your mistakes. They are what you did, not who you are.
- You determine what kind of treatment you allow in your relationships.
- It is healthy and necessary to set boundaries when you don’t like a situation or how someone is treating you.
- Practicing self-care is not selfish. It’s you being responsible for yourself. Get good sleep, hydrate well, eat a healthy diet, exercise and find effective ways to relieve stress.
- Keep the commitments you make to yourself. When we break commitments that we make to ourselves, we are telling ourselves that we don’t matter.
- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Remember, reminding yourself of your value and doing things for you doesn’t make you a selfish or bad person. It is you being responsible for yourself and showing up for yourself. It’s what you need to do to feel good about yourself. And when you do this, a funny thing happens. You not only show up for yourself more, but you are able to show up for others in a more meaningful way, too.
Your turn…Do you know your worth?
