Merriam-Webster defines normal as: “conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern” and “according with, constituting, or not deviating from a norm, rule, or principle”. But who determines the standard, regular pattern or rule?
For the spider, weaving her web and waiting for the fly is how she survives. It is her normal way of life. For the fly, getting stuck in a web means the end of his life is near. Both experience the web, yet their experiences are radically different.
Normal doesn’t exist. We all have different definitions of what our normal is. We derive those ideas from our own past experiences, our objectives, our childhood programming and our overall mental health.
“Normal” is a box that our society created that reflects someone’s or some group’s definition of how things should be. Having these labels make these people feel more comfortable about their own choices and ideologies. But everyone is different and that is what makes us who we are.
At the end of the day, normal is the biggest illusion you will ever buy into. Plus, why would you want to be normal and fit in with everyone else, when you were born to stand out?
