I wish I had heard this quote years ago as I was a teenager and thought my world was completely over. In reality I was just simply coming undone. I had faced some very real, difficult times and I didn’t understand that coming undone was part of the process of helping me grow into something greater.
It’s easy to get lost in our emotions when we are faced with challenges and difficulties. When we feel like there isn’t an end in sight to our suffering, it’s almost impossible to see what we are going through as “just part of the process”.
Here are some things to remember when you feel yourself coming undone:
- Have patience with yourself and treat yourself with kindness. What you are going through right now is not easy.
- Struggle in our relationships doesn’t immediately mean that something is wrong. Struggle often happens when we are doing things right because we are breaking out of the norms to become better or have more meaningful relationships.
- There is an ebb and flow to everything in our life. Things come and go, just the tide comes and goes from the shore. Think about it. It’s funny how we can outgrow things we never thought we could ever live without before, yet it happens throughout our lives.
- Our most valuable weapon when faced with difficulties is how we choose to respond to them. Our response is all we ever have complete control over.
- Remaining positive in a situation doesn’t mean that you are denying the reality of the situation. It’s choosing to see the challenges and focus your thoughts on a solution and all that can go right, instead of what can go wrong. It’s overcoming negative thoughts.
- You were never created to live depressed, defeated, guilty, ashamed, condemned or unworthy. You were created to be victorious. Trust this process. It cannot break you.
