If you are a giver, learn your limits because takers don’t have any.
My natural impulse is to give to the people I love. I always want to be available to help them out or do something to make them smile. The problem is, sometimes I end up giving too much because the person I am giving to, just takes and takes. If you are a giver like me, knowing when to set limits for yourself is important. You can’t expect other people to just “get it” and
Sometimes we need to be brave enough to outgrow the life we’ve built.
This is a very powerful quote that speaks to the fact that sometimes in order to grow and change, we need to be brave enough to leave behind the life we have created for ourselves. This can be a difficult thing to do, but it is often necessary in order to move forward. What It Means to Outgrow Your Life To outgrow your life means to move beyond the limitations that you have set for
The fact that you are still here is proof that whatever tried to beat you lost.
When we experience challenges and hardships, we tend to lose sight of all that we have already survived. In fact, we have survived 100% of all the struggles we have faced. Every time life knocked us down, we got back up. The chances of you surviving your current situation are great – even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. You see, it isn’t our circumstances that define us. It is our response to
Healing also means taking responsibility for the role you play in your own suffering.
A few years ago, I wrote a post about how trauma creates changes you don’t choose. Healing is about creating change that you do choose. Part of healing is acknowledging the role we have played in our own suffering. How We Play a Role in Our Own Suffering and What to Do About It Regardless of what created our suffering, we need to become aware of how we may have contributed to it. Denial Sometimes
When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.
We tend to gravitate towards people who are like us, or people who we aspire to be like. As they old adage goes, birds of a feather flock together. In a previous post, I talked in depth about how important it is to surround yourself with the right people. The right people can not only be a great support system but can inspire and encourage you to reach your full potential. Who we choose to
May you never become so familiar with pain that you reject anything good that tries to find you.
When we have felt pain often in our lives, we tend to guard our hearts and egos from additional suffering. Many times, this will show up in our life unconsciously. For example, if you have been cheated on before in relationships, you might be on guard with your current partner because on some level, you expect that it will happen. So, you are already mentally prepared for it. But with all the energy and effort
Maturing is realizing how many things don’t require your comment.
I feel like as a society, we feel the need to comment on everything. Social media amplifies those feelings by having a built-in audience who is ready to engage with us 24/7. When we feel wronged, we tend to look for validation that we were indeed wronged in some way. While this can feel satisfying at times, sometimes the best response is no response. Staying Silent If you are in the middle of an argument,
Sometimes you just have to be done. Not mad, not upset. Just done.
There comes a point in an unhealthy relationship when you are just “done”. For me, that feeling came at the most unsuspecting time. For years, I put up with some pretty horrendous behavior. Like certain behaviors that should have definitely been a deal breaker for me. Why weren’t any of those things the catalyst that caused me to say I was done? Because the truth was, at the time, I really wasn’t done. I’ve written