Some people create their own storms and then they get mad when it rains.
Some people thrive in crazy-making and chaos because it is what feels normal to them. It’s completely maladaptive and no doubt draining to that person as well as those around them. What kind of behavior will you see if you’re standing in the middle of someone else’s crazy-making storm? Often times if you are dealing with someone who is engaging in crazy-making behaviors, it can be hard to see, especially if they are a loved
In order to rise from its own ashes, a phoenix must first burn.
In mythology, the phoenix is a large and radiant bird with beautiful plumage and magical capabilities. With brilliant hues of reds, yellows and purples, it associated with sun and fire. The phoenix builds his own funeral nest, and when it is time, he lights himself on fire with a single clap of his wings. He turns to ashes, then rises again, reborn. The phoenix symbolizes rebirth and renewal. The end is never the end for
Change is the only constant in life.
If you can count on anything in life, that is change. Just like the seasons change and we grow and evolve, everything else around us changes. We have this comfort in the known and when we feel the threat of change, we freak out. But since change is going to happen anyway, why not embrace it? Instead of seeing it as an inconvenience, what if we looked at it like an opportunity? Here are some
The unfed mind devours itself.
When we don’t keep ourselves busy and feed our mind positive things, we can fall into the trap of getting in our own head. Whether it’s our own thoughts or all of scary headlines about coronavirus we are bombarded by daily. What does that mean? It means we tend to overthink things, self-examine and worry beyond what healthy reflection is. We can get caught in the vicious cycle of rumination and stay stuck there. Let’s
Expectation is the root of all heartache.
Coined by Shakespeare, this quote rings true in so many situations. For today, I am going to focus on expectations in relationships. Even the healthiest relationships can be undermined by expectations. And when I talk about expectations, I mean day to day expectations of others. Not standards like wanting to be treated with dignity and respect in a relationship. We’ll save that for another post. As humans, we are conditioned to believe that our happiness
Empathy without boundaries is self-destruction.
As an empath, this is something I struggled with for a long time. I never really knew where to draw a line or how to create boundaries. I honestly believed that having boundaries when it came to the people I love was selfish. While empathy is essential for developing deep, intimate relationships with others, it is also necessary to know how to balance your own needs and self-care, too. Otherwise you will fall into a
You can’t wake a person who’s pretending to be asleep.
What does it mean when someone pretends to be asleep? To pretend to be asleep is to deny seeing what is right in front of you. It is avoidance. And before we judge it, we need to understand that this is a very human response. Sometimes we protect ourselves by denying what is happening because we just don’t know how we’d deal with it if we acknowledged and accepted it. But how do you handle
We are all living in cages with the door wide open.
We create our own limits. Our mind can be an impenetrable prison, created by our own fears, insecurities and reasons why we believe we can’t be the person we want to be or can’t achieve something. It is a buffer we create to protect ourselves from rejection and failure. We stay in our cages on our perch, watching the world go by, safe from harm, taking no risks. Yet we were created to fly. And