
Unless you know who you are, you will always be vulnerable to what people say.
Truly knowing who we are and owning it is the best gift we can ever give ourselves. When you know who you are, what other people have to say doesn’t matter. You aren’t vulnerable to questioning yourself just because they have an opinion about you. Who we are evolves over our life time as we are exposed to different people and new experiences. Many of us don’t fully realize who we are just yet. And

Better the devil you know than the one you don’t.
We can stay stuck where we don’t belong for a very long time because we prefer the devil we know. The flip side is, we might not have to know a new devil at all. The truth is, change is going to happen in life, whether we want it to or not. Growth, however, is optional. Overcoming the urge to stay stuck in a place that sucks but is known, takes time and often immense

If Nothing Changes, Then Nothing Changes.
An obvious statement, yet we seem to forget it from time to time. Why? Because human nature naturally wants an easier path or answer to a problem. Change requires hard work, unpredictability and unknowns and we just don’t like it. If you’re a Harry Potter fan, you’ll get this analogy. When it comes to change, we often go into Kreacher mode. In the Harry Potter stories, Kreacher doesn’t want to deviate from is path and

A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships were built for.
While it is safe to stick to the familiar and known paths in life, truly living is veering off those paths. Life is meant for adventure, developing meaningful relationships and learning about who you are and why you are here. How can you discover those answers if you chose to play it safe all of the time? To experience new things and grow as a person, you have to be willing to get out of

Eighty percent of all choices are based on fear. Most people don’t choose what they want; they choose what they think is safe.
We know that it is human nature to play it safe. But when we really start examining our choices, how many can we say are made based on what we really want? I know for me, there is a silent compromise I make in many of my choices. I can make an excellent argument with the rationalizations I use as to why I should choose something safer or put something off. And sometimes there is

Some people are holding serious grudges against you for the shit that they did.
When people feel bad about the things that they have done, and they don’t want to acknowledge the truth about they did, they tend to focus all their energy on picking apart someone else and the things that they do. By focusing all their energy on them and making them the person who was wrong, they don’t have to look at themselves. Or take accountability and responsibility for themselves. It’s a nice little buffer that

We generate the results in life we believe we deserve.
Whether we are conscious of it or not, what we believe about ourselves determines the results we get in our life. Back in June, I talked about the science behind the law of attraction and how our brains create filters for our experiences based on what we believe. You can read the full post here. What we believe about who we are, and our value heavily influences how we experience life. Whether it’s how we

Sometimes you’ve just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you.
Often times we give and give to others, hoping to get the same back from them. When we don’t get it, we wonder why we aren’t worthy of it in their eyes. Or we keep on giving and hoping the other person will see it and give us the love or validation we want. The truth is, you are worthy. Just as you are. And your worthiness doesn’t decrease just because someone else can’t see