The responsibility of love is to keep another’s heart safe.

Wouldn’t the world would be a better place if we approached love as a responsibility to keep another’s heart safe? We are often so consumed with what we want and need out of a relationship that we forget that we have a responsibility to our partner to provide a loving, safe place for them, too. We tend to focus on what the relationship isn’t giving us, rather than all the positive things we do experience

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What defines us is how well we rise after falling.

Falling is inevitable.  What matters is how well we rise after falling.  Failure is experience and the most successful people have failed more times than they can count. Let’s take a look at how some have fallen. We all know how well they have risen today. J.K. Rowling was an unemployed, divorced single mother when she wrote Harry Potter. Harry Potter was rejected by 12 publishing houses. Stephen King’s first novel was rejected 30 times.

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If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.

We all have baggage and scars from previous relationships and even our family of origin. Our past hurts and fears can transfer into new relationships because we are scared of the same thing happening again.  Sometimes we are so afraid of something bad happening again, we treat our new partner with distrust, or we will even wound others to try to heal ourselves. Healing what hurt us is necessary for us to have the healthy,

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Don’t cut what you can untie.

If you had a massive knot in your shoelace, would you just take a pair of scissors and cut it to get the knot undone? If you did, they would be forever altered, and your sneakers would never fit the same way they did before. This quote is such a good one to remember in handling conflict in relationships. Often times we are really quick to lash out when we are upset or are hurt. 

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Evolve or repeat.

We’ve all had to learn things the hard way at various times in our life. I’ve always been a fan of believing that if the same situations keep happening to me and I haven’t learned from it, they will continue to happen until I do. Our time here is limited and we are meant to evolve. We are here to become better, to give more and to make our little place in this world better

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Fear does not stop death, it stops life.

It is said that 99% of the things we worry about or are afraid of, never actually happens. Yet we grant our fears so much validity in the moment. Perhaps if we believe we think on it happening enough, we can somehow control it better when it happens. But here’s the thing: nothing can really prepare you for loss, finding out you have an illness or anything bad happening. You will never be 100% prepared

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Don’t trust what you see. Even salt looks like sugar.

Oh, how looks can be deceiving! Whenever I hear this quote, I think of a funny story from my mother where it illustrates this point quite literally.  When my mom was a child, she filled my grandmother’s sugar bowl with salt to see if she would tell the difference. Of course, by sight, it looked the same. Eager to have her morning coffee, my grandmother unknowingly heaped in two overflowing teaspoons of salt right into

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Let go or be dragged.

We’ve all been in situations where it’s hard to let go of something or someone. But what happens to us when we refuse to let go and develop a pathological attachment to a person or outcome? Let’s start with the basics. One of our biggest human needs is certainty. Certainty makes us feel safe and secure. There is nothing wrong with you for wanting certainty about a person or outcome. What messes us up is

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