Have you ever stayed in a relationship that you knew wasn’t good for you because the thought of leaving that relationship felt like too much to bear? Or maybe you your emotions can sometimes get in the way of doing what is truly best for you?
Why We Accept Less Than We Deserve
Sadly, there are many reasons why we accept less than we deserve.
Avoiding Difficult Emotions
One reason we accept less than we deserve is that we don’t want to deal with the difficult emotions associated with losing what we currently have. We may know that there is a better option available to us, but we stay where we are to avoid any negative feelings.
For example, we might stay in a manipulative relationship because we don’t want to experience the emotions of a breakup, or we might stay at our current job to avoid feeling anxious for job interviews.
Low Self-Esteem
Having low self-esteem can make us believe we deserve a lot less than we actually deserve. Self-esteem is the value we place on ourselves, and having low self-esteem means the value we place on ourselves is very low. When we feel that our lives are less valuable, we allow others to treat us like we lack value. For signs of low self-esteem, see this post from Very Well Mind.
Loneliness
This reason relates specifically to relationships. Sometimes, we accept people into our lives who aren’t good to us or for us because we are lonely, but negative relationships can often lead us to feel more alone than we did previously.
Denial
We also might deny that we are accepting less than we deserve. It is easy to fool ourselves into believing that our current situation is the best that we can do, but this only prevents us from seeking anything better.
How to Start Getting What You Deserve
If you relate to this quote and have found that you frequently accept less than you deserve, it is time for you to change your mindset.
Say “NO” To Your Limiting Beliefs
Limiting beliefs are beliefs you hold about yourself that prevent you from living the life you want to live. Some examples of limiting beliefs include “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t deserve better,” or “I’ll never accomplish my goals.”
Free yourself of limiting beliefs by identifying them and asking yourself how true they really are. Every time one of these beliefs comes to mind, simply say “no” and change the narrative.
Develop Higher Standards
What you receive in life will follow the standards you set. If you set high standards, better things will follow. Start by determining where in your life you need to raise your standards, and take a good look at your existing standards in that area. Then prioritize yourself and identify what you actually want in that area of your life.
Improve Your Self-Esteem
To get what you deserve, you need to act like you deserve better. You need to see that your life is valuable in a variety of ways. A great place to start is by making a list of all your strengths and best qualities.
Take a Leap of Faith
To get what you deserve, you often must take a leap of faith by leaving behind something you currently have. Change is hard, but change allows us to go after what we want.
